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  • I am glad I took a chance

    I had fallen into a career I truly loved, selling floor care, cleaning products, and equipment. It came on the heels of me losing a job with United States Steel, Duquesne Works, in Pittsburgh. The mill closed, and I thought that was it for me, but my mother taught me to have a good work ethic, so out hunting work, I went. I found two jobs being a janitor. I had to provide for my family, so I did what I had to do. Fast forward 18 years after a very successful career. I loved the work, I loved serving others, and that’s what sales is – serving others. After 18 years with a great national brand of floor care products, Hillyard, Inc, they were changing how they went to market. They were slowly removing company sales representatives like me and moving towards independent distributors. I was the last of the company salesmen, and I knew my career was about to change. I was very frightened. I did not want to work for someone else. I had been relatively independent for 18 years and had built a book of customers of over two million dollars. So faced with a decision and scared to death I decided I would start an independent distributorship. I had never done anything like this, but I thought long and hard and wanted to leave something for my three kids. I wanted to leave a legacy and a business for our children, should they want it.

    So I got some outside help and put together a business plan. I scheduled a meeting with the owners of the company I worked for and flew out to St Joseph, Mo. to Hillyard Company to present my business plan to the owners suggesting I’d become an independent distributorship, and the rest is history. That was September 10th, 2001. They quickly agreed. I ended my employment with them and took into the work of building Fagan Sanitary Supply Co. Some 20 years later, my children successfully run the company, and I sit here retired on a beach in the Bahamas. It was a frightening but great decision!

    Larry

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    • I love your story Larry. It’s a story of taking a chance on yourself, believing in yourself and going for it – no matter what anyone thinks. So amazing and so inspiring. Thank you for sharing and thank you for being a part of our family. <3 Lauren

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    • Hi Larry,
      I absolutely love everything about this story. I feel like it tells so much about who you are and what imprint you want to leave on this world.
      A lot of people never take a chance on themselves because they’re afraid to fail. Just the fear of failure alone leaves the majority in a stagnant position- but you didn’t let fear lead to ina…read more

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    • Your story is inspiring. I know how scary it can be to take a leap of faith but most of the time it’s worth it. It’s exciting that you created a legacy that your children have decided to carry on. Thank you for sharing.

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    • What an inspiring story, I only wish I had that much power. I’ve always wanted to do something like this all my life, but never truly pushed it, plus I really didn’t know how to go forward with it. I had a lot of illnesses getting in the way during my life, and that held me up for years and after that I just didn’t go with the idea of start…read more

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    • You such a dedicated person, and you are so driven. Even when a difficult challenge comes your way you still kept it pushing and never gave up. Thank you for sharing.

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  • Jim shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 1 months ago

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    A risk worth taking

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  • Leaving What Seemed a Perfect Situation

    Dear Unsealed Community,
    When I was in my first semester of college at C. W. Post I was very unhappy. I had never been away from home for any length of time or away from my parents. I was also a very sheltered 18 year old so I was a bit unprepared for the typical college bad behavior that goes on. Adding to this, I did not get along with my roommate or her boyfriend who was always sleeping in the small room with us. All this was a recipe for a case of extreme homesickness. I was heartbroken and needed my parents to be back in my life on an every day basis.
    I made the difficult decision to leave a beautiful 4 year college and apply to the community college near my home in Rockland County. My parents thought it was a poor decision. They felt I was cheating myself out of the full college experience. But I needed to sleep in my own room and be in a smaller college environment where it was easier to make friends. I wanted smaller classes and a few more familiar faces at school. That is the beauty of community college.
    As I look back on that unusual shift in my life, I feel sure I made the right decision. From the first day in of community college, I was happy. The teachers were interesting and caring. I was able to engage in in depth conversations because the class size was smaller. As the semester progressed, I made some great friends and also did extremely well in all my studies. But most importantly, I was back in the loving comfort of my home. I have much gratitude for my dear parents, Bess and Calvin Kalstein for supporting my decision to take a step back in my life. Sometimes going back is ok because it propels you to go forward.

    With love,
    Shelley

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    • Shelly I love when you said “ Sometimes going back is ok because it pro, I love when you said “Sometimes we aren’t ready for new levels in life yet. We tend to still want to fix past things in order to walk into the future. It takes a lot of steps to be able to have the mindset to take a step back especially when you are so focused on what you hav…read more

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    • Sometimes in life we just know when things aren’t right. Like you being in a 4 year college. My motto is if you’re not happy where you are change what you’re doing. And from the sound of it that worked out for you. Thank you for sharing.

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    • Amen, Love it, as the saying goes, “there’s no place like home”, none; unless you had or s having a bad experience at home. I definitely understand you wanting to get out of that situation at the larger college. Why should you have to be uncomfortable in your own space/own room. The worst thing about it, you had to tiptoe around, because there’s a…read more

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    • I believe you made the right decision. Feeling home sick is the worst feeling and that happened to me recently when I took a trip to Jamaica and I haven’t been there in years and I grew up there but the heat was terrible and I just missed my friends and just Florida in general but over time I got used to it. There truly is no place like home

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  • Finding a Happy Medium in the Fight Game

    Almost six years ago, I graduated from Youngstown State University with honors and a Bachelor’s Degree of Journalism. I majored in Journalism, but I always tell people that I had a double-minor at YSU. I technically minored in Communication, but I had another minor: Determination.

    Being on the autism spectrum, I attended job counseling. Every week, my job counselor had me try my best to find leads on job openings in journalism. It’s a small field and it’s something that’s easier said than done because of it.

    About a month and a half into job counseling, I applied for, and was granted a job interview for, a production assistant’s position at one of the local network affiliates in town.

    Days turned to weeks, and the weeks stretched into a few months. By this point, I was well into spring and still had no job. It seemed bleak, but a college classmate of mine told me about a website he was writing for.

    So, I applied. Initially, I was declined because I wasn’t in the market of a major Division I athletic program, but I mentioned to the person in charge of onboarding that I’m a fan in MMA and in the fight game, there’s no offseason, just off weekends.

    On the strength of that alone, I was hired as an MMA writer. Had I not taken a chance on the fight game, I’m not sure where I’d be today. 2023 marks my sixth year of writing about MMA and my second of writing about soccer.

    If you’re willing to take a risk on yourself, the payoff can be something amazing. GO FOR IT!

    Drew Zuhosky, MMA and Soccer Writer

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    • Drew, I absolutely love this. You are INCREDIBLE. I think you should connect with fellow member @jsapril He has CP and he is going through the process of trying to get a job. <3 Lauren

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      • Is he currently going through job counseling? What was his major in college? What is he passionate about? What would he like to pursue for his livelihood? I wish him nothing but success.

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        • Jake replied 1 years ago

          Hi Drew, and Lauren!

          Drew, your story about your “hat in the ring” is truly inspiration! Thank you for always being in my corner! I was inspired by your risk and I am taking my own!
          As they say, “Now I have to execute the game plan!!
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    • Hi Drew!
      Already we have a lot in common because I myself am majoring in Journalism and Communications. Who you know can definitely play a huge factor in this field, at times over what you know it appears. From experience, finding jobs in this field can most definitely be a challenge, but having a support group and people in your circle that want…read more

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    • Drew your letters are so amazing I’m glad that you were able to feel close to The Unsealed family by sharing your everyday life and process with autism. It takes a lot of bravery to do that. You are a great writer and just like the opportunities you have now for writing I can’t wait to see what you have in store for us.

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    • The power of not giving up is unmatched. You took that leap and I’m glad you did. You seem very pleased with your success. Congratulations on 6 years of writing about MMA. Proud of you.

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    • You’re so right, Go for it, what’s stopping you and you went for it, Congrats! I’m so glad you got the job of writing that you truly wanted with a true statement of being a fan of MMA, along with your Journalism degree, that is amazing, and a great accomplishment. As you’ve stated, take a risk, go for it, and everyone (as well as myself) had this…read more

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    • Dude you are amazing, You never gave up and you kept trying no matter what and your hard work truly paid off. I wish you nothing but success and thank you for sharing.

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  • Jake shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 1 months ago

    The TWO ASSISTS

    Mentor: what do the last three syllables of that sound like? TOUR, a guide, and in the word MENtor, it’s MEN who are guided along for the tour of life: not literal men, people.

    I remember it like it was yesterday, the place, middle school, the time, 2009, I was only 11 but, oh, I hear that rhythmic bell blasting right now;

    it was the very first day of sixth grade when That final bell rang, it was time to go home!

    I had an aide whose job was to help me with everything I needed. We walked downstairs, she at my side, making sure I did not get clobbered by all the rascals passing by me. We ended up “in the clear”. What came next was clear as day, forever seared into my memory…

    “I learned more from you in one day than you can ever teach me,” she said. Her name? Ms. Rossi, and at the time. I remember thinking whoever this Ross guy is, (her boyfriend) he is a lucky man, and he eventually put a ring on it!

    Anyway, excuse my diversion, As I was saying.. that compliment meant and still means something that even a Picasso painting can explain and anytime I need a jolt of motivational coffee, I envision my 11-year-old self hearing that endearing comment and smiling ear to ear; however, that statement, “I learned more from you in one day than you can ever teach me,” could not have been further from the truth!

    A couple of days went by, and my mom’s best friend, a second mother to me, and my Occupational therapist, (OT) came into school for what seemed like an eternity! She taught me how to properly sit in this “special” blue and red chair.

    Ms. Rossi did not blink an eye, as she was swallowing it all the instructions given to her up. As for me, I was swallowing it all up, then regurgitating it all right back out. Hey, can you blame me? My OT has a strong tone and after all, she is like my second mother.

    I sat there like a flight attendant and only moved when my OT told me to.

    She was the one who taught me how to do my daily activities in life which I was ignorant of and would have rather watched paint dry.

    When my OT left, I took a deep breath of thank goodness this is over. Then, I remember taking one more breath – this time with excitement because Ms. Rossi whispered in my ear, “I promise you, I will NEVER be as hard on you as she was.”

    Let’s just say, it was Ms. Rossi that did not remind me to take my binder to the next class and forced me to go back to retrieve it. That boy who thought her boyfriend was lucky to have her, now saw a different side, a fierce side.

    I must say that if we played the Newlywed game, she would know every answer before the questions were asked.

    I vividly remember having a gag reflex, and she could tell if it was an itch on my back or because I failed a test; It was like she could see into the future. one day, I was in class without a care in the world and thinking I was disrespected by my other teachers by them not having the same expectations Ms. Rossi did! she whispered in my ear, saying “I know YOU don’t want to have an aide and want to go to college: I don’t want to be an aide; I want to be a Headteacher.

    it turns out that that whisper spoke as loudly as anything I’ve heard in my entire life, Propelling me to ignore all the whispers about me not being able to succeed, and not only getting an undergraduate degree but in turn, a masters degree.

    As for the now Mrs. Candel, she has two children, she is a Headteacher and yes, it is at that same school, teaching english and social studies.

    All I know, whatever lesson plans she has for her students, nothing will EVER compare to the LESSONS she TAUGHT ME!

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    • What a sweet story. It’s incredible the power that our teachers hold. Mrs. Candel sounds like such an inspiration. I’m sure she’d be happy to know she made such a positive impact on you. Thank you for sharing.

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    • This is beautiful. It’s clear that Mrs. Candel had and still has a huge effect on you. It’s so wonderful that you had such a wonderful mentor. Thank you for sharing

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  • BigStudBundy shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 3 months ago

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    Passionate or Toxic Relationship?

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  • Isaac Haldeman shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 3 months ago

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    Dear 2022 aka Two Two

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  • dannicatwhiskers shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 3 months ago

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    Chasing Education

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  • The Road To My Future

    This road im on
    It’s a wild ride
    But I’ll keep riding until Dawn
    Pushing into being an adult
    I try to make wise choices so that I see the result
    Reminding myself daily it’s alright to be full of love
    In a sparrow world, I can continue to be a dove
    Confusing as it may be;
    I still desire consistency
    I choose to make myself proud and others as well, my improvements shall be loud!
    You will make it…
    I will make it!
    Telling yourself in the mirror so to your changes you must commit.
    The goals may change but the outcome shall remain the same.
    To believe in thy self
    But remain humble as to not put myself on the top of the shelf.
    Never let emotions lead the way, for going forward on the path is how it has to stay.
    I never fit in with girls my age, always dared to be different,
    But I have slowly learned that is actually magnificent.
    I was once told by someone looking into my eyes I would never be enough,
    Little did they realize that would allow me to rebuff
    To reach my potential and accelerate is what I choose to do,
    For my dreams I want to pursue.
    Seeing my patients pass away with the summer in their eyes,
    I remember their spirit flies.
    For God I shall live,
    For myself I have to give.
    I will not give up on myself again,
    That’s why I have this pen.
    The words I write,
    Pour out from my heart and I want to shine the light.
    Not only for myself but for all who choose to listen.
    My future I strongly wish to glisten.

    Alexis McWhorter

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    • This is so beautiful. There is so much wisdom is this piece.
      “Never let emotions lead the way, for going forward on the path is how it has to stay.” … I feel like I remind myself of this every day in order to stay focused on what I want in life.
      Anyone who ever tells you that you are not enough is simply projecting their own insecurities.…read more

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    • Dear Alexis,
      Your poem is beautiful. You sound like a very strong determined woman. I hope you keep fighting for yourself so that you may realize your dreams. I wish you all the best!

      Shelley

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    • Your poem is so amazing and motivational. That pen is your sword and you should never out it down. Keep it up and continue to use it. The road towards our future is long but it sure as heck is going to be a journey.

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    • You are a beast with your pen. You speak your truth and it is loud. Pursue your dreams with a fiery passion. You will empower others to do the same. Thank you for sharing.

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    • Oh my, I love this. What an inspirational piece. You will inspire so many with this piece, and if anyone reads it and can’t see the meaning of it all, they have an issue. This is a very motivational speech for anyone, especially ones who have low self-esteem, or always feeling down about their life and/or always not feeling what they do in life…read more

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    • You are so strong, I believe that all the negatives you heard was gods way of pushing you to be the best you. You dared to be different, you dared to be you and you’re clearly an inspiration to others that struggle with just that- being themselves. Thank you for sharing

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  • Jim shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 4 months ago

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    Hey 2022

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  • Dear 2022

    Dear 2022,

    When the clock struck midnight on January 1st, 2022, I had high hopes for you – the upcoming year. I planned to build a new feature on The Unsealed – a pen pal system allowing users to post their content and write to each other. I was hopeful that this would be the “it” factor that would take my company to the next level. I thought I would sit back and enjoy the show once it launched.

    Personally, with COVID seemingly becoming less severe, I was excited about going out more and meeting new people. Maybe date someone new – or meet some new friends in Miami.

    Per usual, the year didn’t go exactly as planned. Just like every other year, there were some challenges I didn’t foresee. My mother had a cancer scare, and I lost a friend at 40 years old to brain cancer.

    It was tough, but I continued to march forward as I always do.

    When I launched our Pen Pal network, I quickly realized that we were helping people and had something special. However, I also realized that we laid the foundation but still needed to build the house. There are elements we need to add. We still need to figure out a flow and a clearer user-generated experience.

    Outside of work, I have met new people – some were lessons, while others have been a whole lot of laughter.

    While 2022 didn’t lead to everything I wanted, I feel closer to all that I desire. I evolved personally and professionally. I have a better idea of who I want in my life and what I need to do to realize my dreams.

    While my hopes for next year are similar to those from last year, I am thankful for a journey filled with amazing people, passion, and purpose.

    It’s been real. Thanks for the memories, 2022.

    With gratitude,

    Lauren

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    • Great stuff Lauren. I know that you deserve only the best. And if I know you well enough , you will get only the best. It’s what you do 🙂
      Look out 2023!

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    • I truly enjoy this platform. I’ve read stories that have made me laugh and some that have brought me to the. You are truly changing lives through your work. Thank you for all that you do.

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    • Yes, thanks for the memories. I love it. We should all look back at all that we’ve accomplished the year before, if only to see what we did, how we can do it better, and what’s next. You did what you can to build this platform and it will continue as long as you allow it. Yes you will make many decisions, some will pan out and some may not, but…read more

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    • I admire you. You never gave up and continued with your plan no matter the hiccups. And you are so srong, even though you lost a friend (I’m sorry for your loss) you kept it moving like a boss. Thank you for sharing

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  • Why I broke off my engagement and what it taught me

    Dear Unsealed Community,

    When I was 19 years old, I knew exactly what I wanted. I wanted to chase my dream as a sportscaster. In pursuit of that dream,  I started working at the NBA. I commuted two hours from Columbia University to New Jersey, three days a week, because I was committed. I wanted to network with people who worked in sports. I wanted to hone my writing skills and learn more about the broadcasting industry. This job was supposed to be the first step to the rest of my life. But it nearly took me off course, and everyone, except me, thought I should be thrilled.

    While working at the NBA, I met someone. He was my co-worker. We had the same schedule – or so I thought. I found out later that he was coming to work when he wasn’t scheduled to spend more time with me. We got along so well. We could talk for hours and hours about anything and everything. Soon after meeting, we started dating, and our relationship escalated quickly. Within a year, he left the NBA and began working in finance. We moved in together in an apartment in New York City and got engaged. I was only 21 years old – still a senior in college. He treated me well. We had no drama – no lying, no cheating, no bullshit—just two young people who genuinely enjoyed each other’s company.

    He checked every box.

    My parents were happy. My friends thought I was so lucky. And in society’s eyes, my life was going very well.

    The only problem was that I was miserable. I was not ready to be someone’s wife. I didn’t want to sacrifice opportunities for my career for a relationship. My ring felt like a handcuff, chaining me to a life I didn’t yet want.

    I stayed in the relationship for four years because, logically, we made sense. According to society, this relationship is what I should want. But I was so unhappy which led me to question myself more times than I could count.

    “Why don’t I want this relationship?”

    “How come I am not on cloud nine?”

    “Isn’t this is what I should want?”

    “Is there something wrong with me?”

    Ultimately, it took every ounce of strength I had to end the relationship. It was one the most difficult decisions I have ever made, as I had to hurt someone I loved – someone who never would have hurt me.

    However, I knew, long term, it wasn’t fair to either one of us if I stayed in a relationship that I didn’t genuinely want. In the days, weeks and months following our breakup, I felt a sense of relief and freedom. I pursued my career, moved out of New York, and I have since chased every single dream or goal I’ve ever had.

    To this day, people still think I was crazy to end the relationship – especially since I am now 36 and single. But I have never had any regrets.

    Looking back, I learned that sometimes we doubt ourselves when our desires differ from the expectations the world sets for us. But deep down, each of us know what we want, and all we need is the courage to pursue it relentlessly.

    Be who you are – not who others expect you to be.

    Lauren

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    • Sometimes the hardest this is letting go of what no longer serves you. I’m glad that you left a situation that made you unhappy. You pursued your dream and look where you are now!! Thank you for sharing.

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    • This is amazing. It sucks to let go of those you love but if it doesn’t make you happy you shouldn’t sacrifice your happiness to appease others. Things change but life goes on. Thank you for sharing

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  • What I love about me

    To The Unsealed Community,

    When I was ten years old, I was in love.

    I grew up in the 1990s, and like most other girls in my generation, I thought Jonathan Taylor Thomas, aka JTT, was my future husband. He played Randy on Tim Allen’s Home Improvement. I had posters of him in my room, and I listened to love songs imagining the two of us on long walks in the park.

    Ahead of my eleventh birthday, my father asked what I wanted as a gift.

    I told my Dad, “I would like to meet JTT.”

    My Dad chuckled and said, “What’s your second choice?”

    I said, “Dad, there is no second choice. That is what I want.”

    He told me he didn’t have that kind of power. So, I said fine and told him I would figure it out myself.

    Later that week, I went on the internet and started searching. I knew there had to be a way to meet my crush. It wasn’t long before I stumbled across a charity event for Audrey Hepburn’s charity for children. The event hosted movie premiers, fashion shows, and after-parties with child stars in New York City, forty minutes away from my home. The list of child actors had to be one hundred deep: Mara Wilson, Michelle Trachtenberg, Rider Strong, Devon Sawa, and, sure enough, Jonathan Taylor Thomas.

    Tickets for events were cheap – $10 -$40 per event, per person. So, for my birthday, my mother and I got a hotel room in the city, and I attended JTT’s premiere of the movie Wild America. I manipulated my way to the front of the crowd and befriended JTT’s security, who arrived at the theater a half hour before JTT did. As luck would have it, like every other man in the world, the security guard had a crush on my mother. I ended up in the elevator with JTT and got a picture and a kiss on the cheek. And then, he sat right behind me in the theater. I swear there were moments when he leaned forward, and I could feel him breathing on my neck. The next day at the fashion show, the security guard snuck us backstage. I met nearly every star there, and my 11-year-old self was in heaven.

    One of the qualities I love most about myself is I go after what I want. I don’t take no for an answer. I believe I was born with this relentless and determined spirit.

    Whether it was meeting JTT at eleven years old, becoming a sportscaster in my 20s, or starting a business in my 30’s, I have never taken “No” for an answer. No has always just meant, “Find another way.”

    Through the years, the stakes have increased, and the challenges are sometimes even more unrealistic. But without looking back, I have continued after whatever I have wanted in life.

    Even if some days are hard, I live life with no regrets, no what ifs or would have, could have, should haves.

    And while I may not have married JTT, like I once planned. Going after him, along with all the other things I love in life, has made me love myself and all that I am even more.

    Lauren

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    • You are so inspiring. You have that go getter mentality and I love it. Never lose that let of you. It’s a blessing. To be so motivated and grab what you want most. Thank you for sharing.

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    • You’re like the real life wonder woman. Determined and fearless in your endeavors, and never gives up no matter the situation. You truly are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing

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  • Sade Bess shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 7 months ago

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    Something To Prove

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  • J.Lovell shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 7 months ago

    Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

    Historically anytime I really desired to do something that I really wanted to do I just did it, even though sometimes there would be doubt I would still do it. And anytime I just stayed in my comfort zone I almost never got what I desired. So now that I’ve experienced both getting out and staying in a com fort zone I know that going for what you desire is better than the regret of doing anything. Cause then you’ll live in regret, which weights tons
    Right now as I write this letter I’m doing something that’s out of the box for me, which is a program I’m taking which once I accomplish I know it will make me a much better person. Also I desire to take this program for a long time and now I get to take the program after a long time attempting to find it.
    Every time I go out of my comfort zone overall I actually always feel incredibly thankful that I took that jump because if I didn’t or refuse I know it will be on my mind until its accomplished one way or another.

    Overall through the course of this letter I highlighted the consequence of now going after your dreams and staying in your comfort zone so with that being said I desire to say this last thing. Jack Canfield once said “You are not allowed to have a dream that you can’t make come true”. So go and accomplish your dream “You can’t spell the word goal without the word GO” so go do it, manifest it, accomplish it. You Can Do It!!!
    P.S that last quote was one of my own.

    Jairus Lovell

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    • Thank you so much for educating us on what not to do. We all fall victim to our comfort zone all to often I greatly appreciate the chart as I am a visual learner. I will implement this in my career and everyday life. Thank you!

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    • This is great, and I loved that last quote. I never pay any attention to how the word Go just happens to be in the word Goal, it fits. We should always go after our dreams, whether we complete it or not. The idea is to go for it. How would you ever know if you can’t do it, if you don’t even try. A lot of people are afraid of going for their goal,…read more

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    • There’s this saying “YOLO” meaning you only live once and this screams YOLO. Stepping out of your comfort zone to do something you’ve never done before if one of the best things you could do because you’ll just be thinking “what if I did it” if you didn’t do it. You are 100% right

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  • We’ll Be a Dream

    As most young children, I had many different dreams for my future. For a while I was completely set on being a princess. I mean, who doesn’t want that true love that’s portrayed in all of the Disney movies? Over time I ditched the glitz and glamour dream for one a bit more adventurous: I wanted to be a spy! As expected, I didn’t end up pursuing that dream, but I definitely was an observant child. As I grew older, I toyed with the idea of pursuing a career as a teacher. I thought about what subject I’d teach, and for a while I said English and creative writing were my favorite, but that was until I found myself loving my psychology class. The idea of understanding how the brain worked and how people operate was so interesting to me, and over time it has become so much more for me.

    Truth be told, I never saw myself pursuing a career in psychology, and honestly, I still don’t! I could have gone to a university and dove into the field, but I knew that meant more school and taking on thousands of dollars in debt. Instead of doing what everyone else was doing, I did what I felt was right for me, and that was working full time and moving out of my parents’ place. At 19, even though most of my friends were either staying with their parents or living in a dorm, I still felt that I was getting out of there too late. Since the age of seven, I had been living with functioning alcoholics who didn’t seem to enjoy each other’s company. I witnessed angry arguments, suffered emotional and verbal abuse, and knew too much about adult issues as a child. I knew that being in that space with my parents was not healthy for me, and I had to get out as soon as possible. As I sit here at 27, after going through years of being on different anxiety medications and seeing different therapists, I feel so blessed to live in a time where mental health is being discussed, and I want to be part of that discussion.

    In my parents’ generation, and really all of the older generations, mental health was not something that was well known or talked about. People didn’t discuss how childhood trauma affects you later on in life, or how there is usually a psychological reason for addiction, so they all did their best with the information they knew. Nowadays, there is more access to different types, of therapy, as well as helpful resources that are free online. When you know more about yourself and how your brain developed, it makes it easier to understand yourself. For me, growing up in a chaotic environment had an effect on my nervous system, and this was something I discovered once I was living out on my own with my boyfriend. I was so ready to escape from the constant screaming and arguing and just be with the person who made me the happiest. Going from chaos, to a quiet, loving environment was everything I needed, but it didn’t feel that way at first.

    Once we were settled into our new apartment, I had a sense of relief and I felt like I was finally in control of my life. Unfortunately, early on it was apparent that I was obsessed with control and I still felt this irritability and anger deep down inside me. I’d find myself having many “off” days and days where I would have complete breakdowns, and it honestly only made me angrier because I couldn’t understand why this was happening. I felt like my brain was on fire and I was constantly racing some imaginary clock that I could never catch up to, and I was always so hard on myself. It wasn’t until I saw a therapist who actually listened to me that I actually felt like I understood myself. She explained how being in an unpredictable environment as a child can lead to the need to control, and helped me find healthy ways to cope with my anxiety. I finally started feeling like there was hope for me and I would be able to live happily without medications, and I am lucky to say that I am doing that today.

    Seven years ago, I embarked on a healing journey that I am still on today. I tried different anxiety medications over long periods of time, and even took breaks when I probably shouldn’t have. I saw therapists that I didn’t find helpful, and still hung around toxic people. I still had my breakdowns, but breakthroughs as well, and I over time I learned to acknowledge those. Over the years, I had questioned many things about myself and my life, but there was one thing I knew, and that was that I wanted to raise a family in the future. When I was thinking about my future, I knew that I wanted to be a calm mother who didn’t project her own anxieties onto her kids. I knew that I wanted their father to be someone who I enjoyed seeing every day, and we’d have a love that our children would admire and strive for. I knew that if I wanted these things in my life, that I had to be dedicated to my healing and mental health.

    I’d like to say that I was going to therapy for me, but it initially was for my boyfriend. I knew I had a great person by my side, and he truly deserved me at my best self. He didn’t have to deal with my angry outbursts or my coldness, and I didn’t want to keep giving that to him. He saw who I was beneath all of the anxiety and fear from the beginning, and to this day, he still helps me in every way he can. At my lowest, he helped me set up my appointments and would accompany me to them, and today he appreciates and acknowledges my growth. I look forward to the future to when we have a family of our own, knowing we will be able to take the knowledge we have and raise our children in a healthy, loving environment. Of course, life still has challenges, and there is always going to be growing to do; now that I have developed better coping skills, I am able to look to the future with visions of hope and positivity, rather than fear and anxiety. Learning from my therapist taught me so much about myself, and I truly believe everyone can benefit from therapy. Unfortunately, not everyone has access to therapy, which is why it is important to spread awareness by spreading our stories and sharing resources.

    My dream may seem like a simple dream: have a husband and some children- but it is so much deeper than that. Of course, that is my dream for myself and my future family, but overall, my dream is for everyone to be their best selves. Some people may feel like they don’t deserve it, or maybe it feels like healing will be impossible, but this is the best time to do it. People may feel there is still a stigma around going to therapy, but there is nothing wrong with wanting better for yourself. Mental health is finally being talked about more regularly in media and on larger platforms, and the more awareness we spread, the more of us can heal. I truly believe that if everyone learned how to love themselves and stop judging themselves so harshly, the world would be a better place. I honestly also still believe that we all deserve that love that princesses get in the Disney movies! This is why I joined this community, and this is why I continue to raise my voice about mental health and spreading love- I believe that we can all be a dream.

    Jena

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    • Wow! Jena this is so real. This is so powerful and this is so well written. I am sorry that you grew up in such a toxic environment but I give you a ton of credit for figuring out what you needed to do to heal, to create healthier relationships in your life than the ones you witnessed growing up, and to create home that is filled with love and…read more

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      • Thank you so much for your feedback! I am glad that I was effectively able to get my message across while being my authentic self, and I could show the love we have! I am so blessed do have started on this healing journey and only hope that this gets out to anyone who is struggling with mental health! Thanks again and I am so happy to be here!

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    • Roger, I appreciate this and you so much! I am so happy to hear that you’re working through past traumas and working to be your best self! Life definitely has it’s challenges, but having good support and resources is so nice. I am glad I joined a community full of accepting people and I am touched by your words. I look forward to reading your pos…read more

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    • Hi Jena,
      Your letter is very powerful. I understand how painful it must have been to live with 2 alcoholic parents. No child should have to be exposed to that toxicity. The upside of your journey is that you have gotten the help you needed and you have a vision for a healthy and stable life for yourself. Congratulations on doing the work…read more

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      • Thank you for your kind words, Shelley! I love my parents and luckily today I do have a good relationship with both of them, and it definitely has to do with boundaries that I have set for myself. I do feel like everything happens for a reason, and we can all try to see the good in bad situations; like you said, I was able to get the help I…read more

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    • Amazing letter! I’m glad that mental health is being talked about on social media, especially since it’s also the app that leads many into mental health problems. They are being judged and judging themselves because of it. We need to let people know It’s time to stop judging yourself and start loving yourself. It’s okay to go to therapy, it’…read more

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      • I agree 100%, Kayjuh! Now that more research is coming
        out on the effects of social media, it makes me want to learn and spread more information about it! I found myself a lot happier once I limited my social media accounts (I deleted twitter a couple years ago, and I dont go on Facebook anymore). It’s so important for us to pay attention to w…read more

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    • Hi Jena,

      I got lost in your words because they were so incredible. Like yourself, I fell in love with Psychology. Reading my sister’s school books made me get into it. It was fascinating learning why humans make the decisions that we make. I also learned that I never wanted a career in Psychology either after a few years of studying it. It’s a…read more

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      • Hello Gerald,

        Thank you for being so kind! Yeah, I knew that I didn’t want to be anyone’s therapist, because I knew I needed one of my own. In the past I’d often say to myself “how am I going to help others when I can’t even help myself.” I am blessed to say that I have abandoned that mindset, as I realized that I actually can help myself. I…read more

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        • You’re welcome, Jena! I hear you. I had those same thoughts when I was studying to be a life coach. I can’t guide others when I still need to guide myself. I’m glad I learned that I didn’t want to be a life coach. I love your passion for mental health! You’re welcome btw. I’m glad I saw your letter, and thank you for the well-wishes!

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    • Healing from childhood trauma can be difficult and hard to face. I’m so happy that you were able to develop healthy relationships and create a home full of love. Thank you for sharing.

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    • This is amazing. Even though you had a stressful upbringing you managed to change for the better because you deserved better and because the trauma was eating you up inside. Thank you for sharing

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  • One Opportunity Can Open Many Doors

    Imagine a world where you developed the confidence and positive mindset that you CAN achieve ANYTHING you put your mind to, and just give it a try and go do it!
    Don’t fear that your weakness or negative mindset will take over.
    You may be completely shocked by the outcomes, but here’s the truth:
    You’ve had this positive mindset and confidence in you ALL along.

    Trust me when I say this:
    I NEVER thought I’d see the day where I would finish this extremely challenging 40in.x 60in. commission painting of a customer’s NYC apartment view.
    I NEVER even thought I’d get opportunities THIS huge, in regards to being a small art business owner;
    However, this opportunity and the progression of this painting throughout almost an entire year of so many hours and days of hard work, the time dedicated, and the skills obtained,
    has finally raised the high hopes for me to know in my heart, that I’ve needed all along.
    It helped me feel that I really have been capable ALL along, to step outside of my comfort zone by doing this sort of challenge, and I can accomplish so much more, all while chasing my dreams as a creative and disabled artist.

    This IS why I never give up. It is because of these accomplishments that may “appear” so small in my eyes, but continue to open many others other bigger doors in my artistic journey.

    This city painting may just be the one commission that would help make my whole “tiny”, not so “well-known” art business to truly thrive, and finally allow my artwork to reach and bring joy to many more individuals, as I have always wanted it to.

    This should be an example for you all to NEVER give up, and to not ever fear to step outside of your own comfort zone. This should be an inspiration for you all to never stop holding on to what you hope, dream, and live for.

    I was once there;
    before this painting commission, I doubted myself in more ways than any 27 year old should.
    I am now recently 28 years old, and I am starting to finally try and refuse allowing myself to feel any sort of doubt or let my negative mindset control me from any individuals’ negative words or judgements.

    The positive and optimistic “Alexandra” …IS out there, and despite her letdowns, and her hardships, along with anyone who has ever doubted her or continues to doubt her,
    She is finding the strong woman she has always had inside of her this entire time;
    more than EVER before.

    Each day is a new beginning, and a chance for new positive opportunities to arise.

    It is important to keep in mind that when one door closes, another BIG one opens…
    And those “doors” for opportunities will ALWAYS be there, and will never stop coming or opening.

    Never stop chasing your dreams;
    And if anyone tries to doubt you, know in your heart that you have had the strength and confidence in you all along to believe in yourself to fulfill your dreams.
    You have always had it in you for you to be able to develop the skills to see past the ones who doubt you, and continue to thrive and truly be who and where you have always wanted to be.

    Always remember:
    One opportunity can and WILL open many other doors for you if you continue to never give up on chasing your truest dreams.

    -Alexandra “Allie” Mazzola

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    • Alex your letter is truly amazing! We should never give up on our goals, and always remember it is never too late to chase our dreams. If you ever feel like you’re stuck, remember that it takes a lot of courage to always push forward and not back down. The same strength it takes to strive for something new, is the same strength it takes to stay…read more

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      • Hi, Kayjah!!
        Aw thank you so much for your kind words!! That means a lot to me. I needed to hear and read that this morning, so I appreciate you for commenting this on my letter!! I cannot wait until I am able to keep up with my artistic journey and balance it with everything else that is going on, so I can truly thrive in life!! There is so much…read more

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    • Thank you so much, Roger!!! Everyone I met and continue to meet here through this platform and through Lauren and the Unsealed has truly made me so grateful and blessed. To be able to receive all your kind words and feel a sense of confidence to continue with my art and spreading inspiration is truly rewarding for me as well. Love you all!!

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    • Great letter, Alexandra. It seems like a lot of us have a lot of doubt that keeps us from seeing the greatness we have within. I’m glad you’re starting to overcome the negative mindset and doubt that you felt. It’s a hard road to drive, but with practice, the road gets smoother for us.
      Your paintings are amazing btw! You got mad talent!

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      • Aww thank you so much!! That means a lot to me. I’m glad I am also helping to inspire others. You have such great wisdom as well and It makes me happy that you found this site and Lauren as well!! This is truly a great platform. I for one couldn’t be any happier I found this as well!

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        • You’re welcome!! I’m glad it meant a lot to you. I appreciate the kind comment. I just share what I think could help others (like what you and others do here on The Unsealed). I’m happy I found this site and Lauren too!!! I still can’t believe I know someone who used to be a sportscaster! How wild is that?!? I agree with you, this is an amazing…read more

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    • I love this little reminder to not let a closed door get you down. Opportunities are always arising. It’s like making choices. They ebb and flow. Thank you for sharing.

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      • Thank you so very much! I am glad my story and words can help remind others that opportunities will always come. They most certainly do ebb and flow!!
        You are very welcome. I am just happy to be a part of this lovely community. It makes me happy to be able to continue inspiring others who may need a reminder that they are going to get through any…read more

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    • You are an inspiration. You knew your potential and you would stop at nothing to get there. You knew your greatness and you wouldn’t listen to the negativity. Thank you for sharing

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      • This means a lot to me. Thank you so much. I have recently endured many life challenges and they have tested my own strength and mental health yet again, making me question what is going to come next in my life.
        However, I know something bigger and better is coming.
        I’m sure I will be more active here soon as well. It is taking some time, but I…read more

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  • Jim shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 8 months ago

    My motivation

    As far as a childhood dream, there was always baseball player or basketball player. Things like that. But at about the same time I realized those were far fetched, I realized that all I really wanted was to emulate my parents and make them as proud of me as possible. I realized that nothing would be more important. Seeing how they took care of me and my brother and sister made me know that this was all I wanted. And everything would fall in place after that. Modest? Maybe. But it was plenty enough for me
    I guess the challenges of realizing the dream came in the form of every day life. The struggles. The potential wrong paths to hopefully not go down. Situations that would arise that would test my resolve to do what my parents would do. Then as I grew older and didn’t have kids, I was never able to think like a parent and put myself exactly in their shoes. Being on my own at college was when I first had to think “what would mom and dad want me to do”? Because they weren’t there with me.It took some getting used to.
    My why is pretty simple : just to be the best Jim Corrao that I can. Like my parents, I live a pretty modest life. They had their fun w gambling trips, golf trips for dad, things like that. But they always put us first and never let anything distract them from taking care of us. I try to do the same with people around me- take care of them, support them. Just be a good person. Live a good life, be a good brother and friend , and make my parents proud. That’s what drives me
    I’m glad I have my why because it made me what I am today. Perfect? Not even close. Were my parents perfect? Nope. But as they got older and nearing their passing, I knew that the only thing to do was be with them and do whatever possible for them. I did that. And I will never have regrets in that regard. They are gone now, but their voices are as vocal as ever in my mind. Still helping me. To help them and still hear them is why I’m glad I never gave up on my why. Thanks for laying the blueprint mom and dad. Love you and miss you. But I still hear you 🙂
    James Corrao

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    • James I am glad that you didn’t give up on your why. Your parents helped you build this and your letter of how you kept pushing will help me as long as I keep pushing forward. The only thing that’s changed is that now, instead of being lost in the woods, I, like you, have in a way, a map to guide me. Your letter is an eye opener.

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      • Hi Kayjah. Wow. Thank you for the very kind words. I’m glad that my letter had a positive impact on you. That means a whole bunch. Yeah we had a simple household, but a very fun one. Dad worked hard at Chrysler. We never were without anything. They were tough. But very fair. Their wisdom will be with me through the years. Thanks again for r…read more

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    • Your parents sound to be like amazing people. You are so lucky to have such a support system. It’s important to never give up on your “why”. Thank you for sharing.

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      • Thank you Mavis. I certainly was lucky to have the parents that I did. All they did was care about us. And yet still lived their lives to the fullest. Thanks again 😊

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    • I so love this, thinking back and having a Why to decide, mostly for your parents. Wanting to do right by them. So, I understand this. My parents weren’t perfect as well, I don’t think any are, but they gave me life and took care of my needs, and that’s a parent. As my parents aged, I wasn’t so much at my father’s side, as he had remarried after…read more

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    • You are so wise and this letter is beautiful. You realized your purpose and you really wanted to do. It took some trial and error but you finally decided and stuck to it. Thank you for sharing

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  • Telina shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 years, 8 months ago

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    I didn’t give up the dream, I adapted it.

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  • She

    Dearest she,

    I never took the time to thank you; You have carried me through these trials with patience.
    I have bled, scarred, and rejuvenated under your tutelage.
    I am grateful for your reminder to be better than the shadows that have always followed me so diligently; while darkness spread, you molded caves of truth. As you roamed in the deep crevices of my sentiments, you fabricated dimensions of safety. Cautiously translating those corrupted images into languages only you and I could ever comprehend.
    Frankly, I am pained by the routes you have taken. These heels, carved with your roots, still seem to find their way through the trees. I turned a blind eye to the breadcrumbs of my ancestors while passing the familiar yet empty roadstead, only for the outcome to be the same. I am grateful for your beautiful insanity, courage, and your uniqueness.
    Carefully cultivated on your terms, I carry your teachings with me as I do my mothers.
    I stand forever indebted to you for never shielding me from opportunity.
    Your passion has kept me in constant fruition. There is no one I would rather travel through this metamorphosis we call life. I may not have treated you with the fairness you deserved throughout these years.
    You have never disregarded my tears.
    You have used them to water my fears so I may face them with you by my side. You have demolished my dragons. Your sword has yielded my path towards greatness.
    Someone once said that in unity, there is strength, and together we are one.
    This matrix may be deadly, but all my strength has come from the cries of our wars.
    I am she, you are me, and we are together. There is no “one” dream. I have many. I will keep pushing and shoving through the heavy waterfalls I blindly throw myself in.
    I know now that the love I found within you, self, I am strong and can do it all.
    Thank you.

    Kenia

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