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  • shelleybrill shared a letter in the Group logo of Chasing Your DreamsChasing Your Dreams group 1 year, 1 month ago

    Leaving What Seemed a Perfect Situation

    Dear Unsealed Community,
    When I was in my first semester of college at C. W. Post I was very unhappy. I had never been away from home for any length of time or away from my parents. I was also a very sheltered 18 year old so I was a bit unprepared for the typical college bad behavior that goes on. Adding to this, I did not get along with my roommate or her boyfriend who was always sleeping in the small room with us. All this was a recipe for a case of extreme homesickness. I was heartbroken and needed my parents to be back in my life on an every day basis.
    I made the difficult decision to leave a beautiful 4 year college and apply to the community college near my home in Rockland County. My parents thought it was a poor decision. They felt I was cheating myself out of the full college experience. But I needed to sleep in my own room and be in a smaller college environment where it was easier to make friends. I wanted smaller classes and a few more familiar faces at school. That is the beauty of community college.
    As I look back on that unusual shift in my life, I feel sure I made the right decision. From the first day in of community college, I was happy. The teachers were interesting and caring. I was able to engage in in depth conversations because the class size was smaller. As the semester progressed, I made some great friends and also did extremely well in all my studies. But most importantly, I was back in the loving comfort of my home. I have much gratitude for my dear parents, Bess and Calvin Kalstein for supporting my decision to take a step back in my life. Sometimes going back is ok because it propels you to go forward.

    With love,
    Shelley

    Shelley

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    • Shelly I love when you said “ Sometimes going back is ok because it pro, I love when you said “Sometimes we aren’t ready for new levels in life yet. We tend to still want to fix past things in order to walk into the future. It takes a lot of steps to be able to have the mindset to take a step back especially when you are so focused on what you have behind you and what to expect in front of you. Keep propelling forward to the future and always take a step back if you need to.

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    • Sometimes in life we just know when things aren’t right. Like you being in a 4 year college. My motto is if you’re not happy where you are change what you’re doing. And from the sound of it that worked out for you. Thank you for sharing.

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    • Amen, Love it, as the saying goes, “there’s no place like home”, none; unless you had or s having a bad experience at home. I definitely understand you wanting to get out of that situation at the larger college. Why should you have to be uncomfortable in your own space/own room. The worst thing about it, you had to tiptoe around, because there’s a man in your room, he’s not your man, and you don’t really know him. It would be awkward if you had a man stay over with a roommate. Myself, I would have moved out the first or second time he stayed overnight. That’s a no go.

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    • I believe you made the right decision. Feeling home sick is the worst feeling and that happened to me recently when I took a trip to Jamaica and I haven’t been there in years and I grew up there but the heat was terrible and I just missed my friends and just Florida in general but over time I got used to it. There truly is no place like home

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