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thorlin55 submitted a contest entry to
Write a letter or poem to your younger self about why he or she shouldn’t worry about the future 1 weeks, 4 days agoHi Bumpy
LindaHi Linda
OK first things first…it is ok that you don’t feel like you fit in anywhere. You do not have to get married and have a family. Having a career and not getting married or having children is fine. I know you get mad whenever anyone says it, but it will be all right in the long term. You will have had one successful career and be in the middle of a second successful career by your fifties.It is all right, though you don’t believe me now, to be wired differently from other “girls” You will find your way and end up with many similarly minded friends who you have a good time with. Also, not everything is your fault, even if you did know, and might have stopped it, the other people involved in the activity SHARE the responsibility. You CAN NOT control the people around you or their choices, but you CAN control how you respond and if you continue to associate with them.
I am not going to lie you will make a TON of mistakes but it’s ok, remember to learn the lesson instead of beating yourself for a mistake.
Lastly, I want you to know that even if you aren’t “pretty enough” or “smart enough” or “good enough” you are in fact enough. You are by no stretch of the imagination much like your siblings and it will be fine. All of you will grow up and become closer as you each learn about what the other is good at and excels at doing.
It will be bumpy, but you can get through it and I will be ahead of you to show you how.
Voting starts July 24, 2024 12:00am
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thorlin55 submitted a contest entry to
Write about a time you didn’t give up 2 months, 1 weeks agoTo Parents with Special Needs Kids
Linda ThorburnEvery day I wake up and remind myself, one day at a time, one challenge at a time. I love my adopted daughters with all I am but both have but both are challenging due to their respective issues. Throughout their lives with me, and even now that the oldest has moved out the struggle every day was real and it hurt on so many levels. I got through it though and want to encourage you all through what I have learned. The first step is acknowledging the grief that comes with lost dreams as you realize what your child may or may not be able to do in the future. It can be so isolating and lonely when you see other people’s kids doing what yours will never do. Reach for help, talk to someone do not allow your sadness to overcome you. Another huge helper is when you can train yourself to look at the gains but from a different perspective. No, my child cannot read great works of literature but she can read signs for safety and direction and that will be much more useful in her life. The last thing I would say is critical and I struggle with too, is to remember to give yourself grace. You are doing the best you can with what you have and be sure to surround yourself with people who will support you and not be critical. Stay strong and know you are enough.
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Voting ends June 17, 2024 11:59pm
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Aww Linda this is beautiful. There is a quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” I love the advice about giving yourself grace. That is so important for us all. Thank you for sharing and thank you for being part of our Unsealed family. Keep writing. <3 Lauren
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