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Gerald Washington responded to a letter in topic To the people we love 1 years, 5 months ago
@mmansfield28 Your letter is really touching. I emphasize with the grief you’re feeling with the loss of your older sister. Losing someone close to you like that is a brutal thing to go through. Like yourself, I’m not an open book either. I have to get to know a person to be an open book. Like Lauren mentioned in her reply, I lost my mom at an early age. It happened three days after my 12th birthday. When I saw her in the hospital with so many tubes around her, I didn’t know that would be the last time I would see her before she passed. Her passing changed the world that I knew. I was so used to seeing her cook her favorite foods, watching her favorite soaps, and seeing her on the couch, and then one day all that changes. For me, there was a lot of uncertainty and confusion after she passed. It took a year for me to accept her being gone as the new normal. Plus, I didn’t grieve like how I wish I did. So there was a lot of holding in emotions that didn’t come out until years later when I finally got to a place where I could think about my mom without tears wanting to come out of my eyes. Your children are going to love you when you have them. There is so much love pouring out of your letter. It’s beautiful to see. You have so much to live for. I hope (and this is easier said than done) that you be easy on yourself and know that your older sister is rooting for you. 🙂 Gerald
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Thank you very much for reaching out to me and I hope that we can talk and share that grieving process. It’s very different for everyone. I figured that out quickly. 6 different people’; my twin, my brother, my niece, my parents…we all took it very differently. I saw her with those tubes the first time. My niece found her barely responsive on…read more
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You’re welcome. I’m glad Lauren mention you in her reply so that I could read your letter. I also hope that we can talk and heal together. I believe it that your family took it differently. That’s great that you wrote for her. I would love to read the letter you wrote to her at her funeral. I bet it’s really touching. I totally understand not…read more
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That would be very nice. I really would love that. It’s a hard road and I had a friends who acted as if him healing in 4 months would be the same for me with my sister. Never. I cried a lot when he said that and told him we all grieve differently. We all live life differently. And I had a different life. She wasn’t just my sister. She was much…read more
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That’s awesome that you do your nonfiction for her. You’re right. We all grieve differently and we grieve in different time periods. Some people can grieve quickly while others need a long time to grieve. I definitely believe that you want her to come back and give her all the love you can. For your parents to be in awe of what you wrote says how…read more
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It’s the least I can do. I don’t ever feel like I’m doing enough or that I can actually put together just what she meant and who she was to me. Yeah, I really do. I actually(I’m okay with anyone seeing this) but I said to my therapist that at this moment, I wished she didn’t come back home that day when I was a few months. She was 19. That’s our…read more
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I understand. If you like, I can give you my email address or we can connect on a social media site so you can share it with me and not publicly. I emphasize what you’re feeling. It’s a tough road to go through. I hope writing about it helps. I wish I knew about writing when I was navigating through my mom and grandad’s passing. Maybe that would…read more
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Yes, that would be lovely. And we can do social media too. I do have insta, I just know they have a word count and I don’t feel like keep cutting it to see where I stopped. But it is a tough road and even though I knew how to write with my grandmothers and sister, I’ve never had this impact. And words fail me. I suffer from alexithymia. It happens…read more
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Sounds good! My Instagram is curiousone10. Good point about the word count. I didn’t even think about that. I hate that you’re going through what you’re going through. Sorry to hear that you suffer from alexithymia too. I gotta look that up. What a word. It’s a hard road to recover from a loss. If only the process was easier for us all, that would…read more
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It was a shocker for me when I even figured out that a word like that existed. It helped me figured out myself, but that was before the death of my sister. I will follow you or you can follow me, mine is private, but I will follow you back. It’s @artisan_meng
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Lauren Brill responded to a letter in topic To the people we love 1 years, 5 months ago
@mmansfield28 This is a beautiful letter. I am so sorry for the loss of your aunt, but she is so proud of your strength and the person you have shown to be. You are making her proud every single day just by being you. I know it! And one day when you have your babies, she will smile down on you as you give them a pure and kind love – just like the love she gave you. Stay strong, Your aunt is watching and she loves you. And your future kids can’t wait to meet their sweet mama. Thank you for sharing your story and inspiring others with your truth. <3Lauren
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Thank you! I’m really happy for the opportunity that I’ve had to be able to show how much my sister meant to me and how much I want to strive and be as much of a godsend as she was to me to them. It’s hard losing her and I still deal with it. It hasn’t been long. Just a couple months and that’s something…it really is. I just want others to know…read more
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I am sure your sister is sooo proud of you! I want to introduce you to @lostone89 Gerald lost his mom at a young age. Gerald, I thought maybe you could share your story and wisdom a little. xo Lauren
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Sure thing, Lauren. Appreciate you mentioning me in what looks like a touching letter and introducing me to MMansfield28. I’ll be happy to share my story with her. 😀 Gerald
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Lauren Brill responded to a letter in topic A letter to my younger self 1 years, 7 months ago
This is so sweet. I hope both of you @mmansfield28 @kayjahlorde that it is always ok to ask for help. All people need people. We survive by leaning on each other and loving each other. Heck, that’s what The UNsealed is all about. @mmansfield28 I am glad you decided to share your story! And yes you can post anytime and all the time!!! We post writing challenges each week but you can also just post your own thing. We just ask that people post stories that have a positive message. It’s all about taking your truth and turning it into power and purpose.
