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  • Jim shared a letter in the Group logo of Remembering those we lost/GriefRemembering those we lost/Grief group 1 month, 1 week ago

    My Amazing Mom

    To try to think of one particularly great story about my mom that really stands out..is kind of a challenge. That feels weird to write it, and said out loud its even more strange. I guess life with my mom was just an endless series of great moments, great days..a bunch of small every day things that comprised one amazing life.My mom passed away 18 years ago. Thats sometimes still very hard to believe. One particular moment stands out..and its a very sad one. But also just illustrates how strong she was and how amazing of a mother she was. I was working at my part time job one night. Mom had been declining..her years long battle with cancer was nearing its end. But I got a call from my brother or my dad at the restaurant I was working at- Mom wasnt doing well, and i needed to get to Mom and Dad’s. I left immediately and went to their house. When I got there Mom was at the bathroom sink, and maybe for the first time in my life I saw my mom scared. Uncertain. Not sure what was happening.I was upset. Dad went upstairs to get his keys and wallet, as we were gonna take Mom to the hospital. Dad asked me to get Mom to the couch and help her put on her coat and her shoes so we could go when he came downstairs. I got Mom to the couch, and I was crying a lot. I’d never seen my mom look this shaken,
    and knew things weren’t good. I hugged her so hard I practically tackled her into the couch. i didn’t want to let go. But I had to help with her shoes. I sat up, and as I was trying to get her shoes on, I was struggling. The tears were flowing so much I could barely see what I was doing. Then, my mom did what she did for almost 34 years- she just made her baby (she called me that) feel reassured and better. Or tried to. She put her hand on my shoulder and my back, and said “Jimmy, it’ll be ok. Everything will be ok”. With who knows what going on in her mind, with her having to know that things weren’t going to be ok, with her maybe being scared of what was going on, her first thought was to take care of me, to protect me, to tell me everything will be ok. I will never forget that moment. As sad as it was, I dont want to forget it. because it just reaffirmed to me what I already know. That nothing mattered to Mom more than caring for and protecting her kids. That turned out to be the last day Mom spent at the house. She passed a couple weeks later. The little 4’10” Italian dynamo left us..but never left our hearts. There were far more happy memories: taking me to an Indians game on my 8th birthday. We took the bus because Dad was working second shift,and my brother had just started driving. But we hoppped on the bus and had a great time. There was the homemade pasta dinners for every holiday (even Thanksgiving had cavatelli..Italians lol). She’d make me pasta every night I had a little league game and tell me there was a double and triple in there. Like I said, the good memories were far more prevalent. But that night-as sad as it was- will stay with me forever. Mom took care of her loved ones, always put us first. Even when she had every right to put herself first. Thanks Mom. You’re the best 🙂

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    Jim Corrao
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    • I am sorry for your loss. Mothers are truly magical though. It is amazing to me that no matter what is going on or what a mother is dealing with, a good mother will always calm her child first and foremost. My mother is the same way. She always comforts me even if she is struggling with something. The love between a parent and child is just so powerful and never disappears. I think your mother somewhere somehow regardless of the time that has past is still shining down on you. She is still looking over you and comforting you and always wanting to make sure you are OK. It’s crazy how you can lose someone and as the time passes in some ways you feel farther and farther away from them but in others ways you feel them right by your side. You were lucky to have your mom as a mom and she was lucky to have you

      Lauren

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      • Jim replied 1 month ago

        Thank you for the very kind words Lauren. Yes it truly is amazing. Great moms just have a knack. And yes, always put their kids first. Mom was definitely like that. Our house was a very popular hub. Kids were always over, we had lots of gatherings to watch Browns games and stuff. We still laugh: whenever anyone would come over, especially after a Sunday dinner, mom would always offer them something. More like insist lol. Dad was the beverage guy. He’d always get someone something to drink. Whether they wanted it or not. And I’d tell my buddies when mom was offering food: “just say yes right away. The portions will be smaller. The more you resist, the more she will give you” lol. Those days were great. And yes. As you said: they are still close. No matter how much time has passed. Live those memories
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    • Hi jim,
      I was very touched by your words. Your Mother sounds like she was amazing. I don’t have to tell you how lucky you are to be touched by such an angel. I am sure you are passing on the love you received to all those around you. Love is such a positive force that can really elevate someone’s life. We need more of that in these very troubling times. I think if I did not have such supportive parents I would not be able to cope with the trials and tribulations of my life. I have always tried to give my children what your Mother gave you. That being strength, self esteem, support, devotion and most importantly love. My heart is filled with joy knowing my daughter, Lauren, is providing a platform for all good people to express their feelings and share amazing moments of their inspiring lives.
      Lauren’s Mom,
      Shelley

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      • Jim replied 1 month ago

        Thank you Shelley. Very much appreciated. Yes my mom was certainly an amazing woman. I’m amazed at all mothers to be honest. Mothers are amazing. Juggling duties, tasks and responsibilities. All the while still taking care of their children first and foremost. That’s great that you had a great mother. It’s clear that she passed along what she knew onto you. It’s clear from the Zoom meetings how caring you are and that you have a big heart. It’s also clear seeing the amazing girl that Lauren has become. It’s very clear that you and Mr Brill raised an unbelievable girl. I miss my mom. But yes , I know she is always with me. I picture her voice in certain situations. It makes me smile to imagine what she’d say to me. Thanks again for the kind words Shelley. They sure do mean a lot

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    • Hi Jim,

      I’m sorry you lost your mom 18 years ago. It’s great that you have many good memories of her. Memories that will stay with you…forever. There’s nothing like a mother’s love. That warmth to comfort you when you have a bad day or are going through a tough time is such a blessing to have. It’s been 21 years since I lost my mom. That’s hard for me to believe that it’s been that long. It’s been so long, that I can’t remember what her voice sounded like. But, I still have the images of her cooking her favorite meals in the kitchen, or watching her favorite soap operas during the afternoons lol. Reading your letter brought those memories back to me. I thank you for that. I believe (like Lauren mentioned in her reply) that your mom is looking down at you with a big smile on her face.

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      • Jim replied 1 month ago

        Hey Gerald

        Thanks so much for the kind words. Not just kind, but right on the money. She is definitely looking down on me. I imagine her voice in my head and it makes me smile. She was 4’10” and was fierce. But soft hearted. She always put her kids first. No matter what. I’m sorry to hear about your mom. 21 years is a long time. Most of your life I assume ? Very sorry to hear it. But you are right. The memories never leave. Ever. I love what you said about the cooking and the soap operas 🙂
        Especially the cooking. Every holiday I think back about mom cooking all morning and thinking how much I’d give to live those days again. I’m sure the same for you. Our “no mothers” club is not a fun one to be in. But we do our best for then right? Thanks again Gerald

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        • You’re welcome, Jim!

          I’m glad my words were right on the money. Haha. Looking at the photo of your mom, I believe that she was fierce and soft-hearted. She sounds like my oldest sister. Lol. She’s very fierce as well. Lol. Your mom looked like a very loving person. Yeah, my mom has been gone for most of my life now, it’s crazy to think about. It didn’t even dawn on me that she’s been gone a lot longer than alive. I hear you on how it would be great to see your mom cooking again in the mornings and cook pasta haha. Yeah, it’s no fun being in the ”no mothers” club, since, we didn’t volunteer to be in the club at all. The only positive about being in the club is that there’s someone that can relate to being in the club. Appreciate your reply, Jim!

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