Dad, Here is what I never got the chance to tell you

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To: Dad

From: Reggie Jagers III

Charity: St. Jude Children's Research Hospital

Sponsor: A friend of The Unsealed is donating $50 to St. Jude's for the first 50 shares of this letter


For a long time, I was hurting from your absence but deep down I always hoped someday we would repair our relationship.

Reggie Jagers II was known to be a good athlete.

We share the same name and for a long time, that gave me a chip on my shoulder. You were a very good local athlete, who played football and baseball and ran track. I wanted my shoes to be bigger than yours. I wanted to train harder and be better.

You were in and out of my life and I channeled that hurt into my athletic career.

After you introduced me to sports as a child at six years old, I started playing football in the local Cleveland youth league. You coached my team and encouraged me to pursue athletics. Back then our relationship was good and I saw you regularly.

At age 12, my brother and I moved to Solon, Ohio, a Cleveland suburb, with my mom. She got remarried.

Dad, I have no idea why, but this was a turning point in our relationship, as you began to jump in and out of my life and slowly we saw less and less of you.

However, I didn’t let your inconsistency as a parent slow down my development as a person. While I continued football without you, my junior year I found track and field. One day I was working out in the weight room and I saw guys throwing discus. One of the guys on the football team competed, so I asked him about it.

He told me, “Reggie, you would probably wouldn’t be any good at track and field. You should probably stick to football.”

I saw that as a challenge and I went out for track and field. The first time I tried discus I threw 140, which was farther than guys who had been doing it for four years. From there, I excelled at the sport – to say the least.

Reggie is among the top-ranked discus throwers in the workd

Despite the fact that I was not highly recruited because I didn’t have a lot of experience, I received a college scholarship to Kent State University. I became a five-time All-American and ended my career the NCAA runner up, while also getting a degree in sports administration.  The Cleveland Sports Commission named me Male Collegiate Athlete of the Year. After college, I turned pro and I am consistently ranked among the top discus throwers in the world.

Now, I have my eyes set on becoming the first African-American to medal in the discus at the Olympic games.

I could make some serious history.

But even if I do, you won’t be here to witness it.

See, when I went to college that became another barrier in our relationship. I didn’t speak to you much at all. My focus was on competing, training and getting good grades.

When I would receive awards or appear in commercials for the school, your friends would tell you. Now and then you would call to tell me you heard how well I was doing in my athletic career but that’s about it.

When I turned pro and started training to represent the U.S., you saw me on TV and in the newspaper. Again, you reached out and called. At this point, it felt like you were gloating about my success even though in my mind you had no part of it.

I felt angry and annoyed.

My feelings toward you completely changed earlier this year. I was at a track meet when I received missed calls from your side of the family. When I called back they told me you passed away. You died from blood cancer and you never even told me you were sick. It was a shock. One moment I had a dad and the next I was without one.

I wasn’t prepared to lose you, even though I didn’t feel like I ever completely had you.

I wasn’t prepared to lose you, even thought I didn’t feel like I ever completely had you.


When I went to your funeral all of your friends told me how you talked about me all of the time and you were honored that I was your son. It confused me. If you loved me and you were so proud of me, why weren’t you there for me? Why were you so absent from my life?

Reggie is aiming to become the first African-American to medal in discus in the Olympic games

Dad, I want you to know instead of searching for answers, I decided to find forgiveness.

I have let go of the hurt. I have let go of the resentment. Life is too short to hold a grudge.

Now, every time I compete I look up and pray to you.

Right now, I am coming off of several injuries. I am fighting through them but I no longer use a hunger to beat you to drive me. I now use my new desire to make you smile to motivate me.

I no longer see us as sharing a name but rather I see our name as one, which means I hold a piece of you and your memory.

While you had your faults, I want our name to represent a warrior- someone who was battle-tested and persevered.

I am not only working hard to be the best version of me. I am striving to be the best version of you.

In doing so, I am no longer holding on to the brokenness you made feel but I am finally repairing our bond by creating a legacy we can both cherish.

Your son,

Reggie Jagers III


Written with Lauren Brill

About the author:

Reggie Jagers III is a discus thrower who often represent the U.S. in international competitions. He attended Kent State University where he finished NCAA runner up in discus.

About the sponsor and the charity:

A friend of The Unsealed will donate $50 to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital in honor of the first 50 shares of Reggie’s letter.  St Jude’s is leading the way the world understands, treats and defeats childhood cancer and other life-threatening diseases.

The Unsealed with match the donation if we get 100 new subscribers and 100 new followers on our Facebook page by 9-22-19

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So nice Roger <3

Pat, Your letter touched me in a very profound way. It left me in tears in the middle of my work day. It made me want to share something with you. On a July morning in 2007 a police officer answered a 911 call I had made when my Mother went into cardiac arrest. Between that officer, my best friend and the fire fighters who showed up minutes later they were able to restart her heart, however at the hospital she passed away an hour later. At the end of his shift that officer stopped by my home to check on the situation and cried when I told him the unfortunate news I received only 4 hours prior. He tried to apologize to me. I looked at the anguish in his eyes and asked him directly what for? He described the ways he felt sorry. What I want to leave you with was my reply to him. I told him he had nothing to be sorry for because he answered the call in what was the darkest moment in my life. I told him that he was a hero regardless because it takes a special person to answer calls like that. You are a hero to people Pat. No one can ever take that away from you. I understand the process you're going through as I've been there myself and like you I still struggle with it when no one is looking. You aren't alone in this. I hope your healing process continues on and you can regain the happiness in this beautiful life. You'll always be a hero to those people, because you were there when the call came Best wishes Roger Chamberlain

Ruth, your letter moved me to tears. Once upon a time I was very closed off about the LGBT community but over a course of several years, I turned my fear into understanding and I actively stand with the community for their equal rights because it is the right thing to do.