An Open Letter to Hangar No. 13

Author’s Note: This letter is a tribute to my grandfather and our time spent building planes in Hangar No. 13. After his passing from cancer, I couldn’t bring myself to return, but when I finally did, the hangar helped me breathe again. It has been a place of healing, where memories and grief could coexist, allowing me to reconnect with both him and myself. This letter is my way of thanking it for giving me the space to remember and to heal.

Dear Hangar No. 13,

You used to breathe like something alive, if you recall.
Not in the way that buildings creak and settle, but in the way the chest expands before speaking. A ribcage, you were, of corrugated steel and reverence. And inside of you were real, working lungs. Lungs that pulled in prairie wind and sawdust which swept through your proud open doors and hushed out the hum of the propellers and warmth from the pilot seat he used to sit in (courtesy of his chronic IBS).
Those funny little two-seater planes he built made him think he could just…fly right out of you and carry himself away with all your air in his lungs. He was full of you and you were full of him. He built those planes not because he knew how flight worked but because he believed in flight. He believed in you. Or, rather, the power of you and the freedom you offered. Faith in motion, he’d say.
When he stopped breathing, so too, did you. You sealed off your lungs as though the right to inhale died with him. And instead you filled yourself with the kind of dust that settles to stay. Thick, patient, watchful dust that cloaked the wings of the planes and settled in the rafters. You just let it hang there.
And I’m sorry for leaving you alone.
I told myself I couldn’t bear to see you like that—hollow, quiet, empty of laughter and stubborn radio static and the sharp sound of socket wrenches biting down. But maybe the truth is I couldn’t face the version of me that still existed in your bones. The girl in lopsided pigtails who sat on the concrete floor cross-legged, passing him tools with greasy fingers. The one who knew how to read the look in his eyes when something wasn’t quite balanced in the engine, or when he was holding back tears because those birds could finally fly.
He was my life and I was his. We were our stories.
But time flew anyway and took you with it. We both felt it. We both sagged under the weight of missing him.
And it wasn’t until I showed up with that broom that the ghosts in the corners flared themselves and began to dance.
Maybe that’s what caught me off guard—the way we startled each other back into breath. I hadn’t expected the rush of stagnant spirit to flood me so suddenly, like a wave breaking over the edge of a dam.
And suddenly everything inside you seemed to breathe with me—like it had been waiting, just as I had, for the moment when we could begin again. You breathed me open. You gave me back the space to feel what it meant to breathe again. To feel it in my whole body, not just in the small, tight way I had been moving through the world for so long. You didn’t change me—not yet—but rather you started to. You started to remind me that I still knew how to live inside my own skin, how to fill my chest with life in the way the sky fills a plane’s wings. How to expand and stretch into the air.
We’re built for flight, you and I. And the ghosts of our past are getting hungry for their mini-pretzels and peanuts.

Yours,

Dear Grandmother Collective.org
It is somewhat serendipitous that I found you. I had finally made my decision. It was time to transition from 20 years as a nurse entrepreneur and identify as a writer and a storyteller. Just a few months away from the five-year mark as a breast cancer survivor, I am ready to be a thriver! Big changes mean big decisions. What personal and professional resources and skills could I call up to move into this new and exciting future? Besides being a septuagenarian and a nurse, I was also a mother, grandmother and a great grandmother. Surely those experiences would be valuable resources. I would need to learn the craft of storytelling and creative writing. I would be free to explore new genres, like STEM fiction for young adults, historical fiction, and share legacy stories that have accumulated over my life and career.
I felt like I hit the jackpot when I discovered the Grandmother Collective website and learned about the changing image of grandmothers.
I never knew my grandmothers. One died in childbirth with her fourth child and the other died of complications of a stroke before I was born. Today improved healthcare has extended life spans and allowed our elder years to be more vibrant and productive. At the same time grandmothers have stepped up to provide childcare so their daughters could take jobs to supplement the family income or pursue their life mission. After the grandchildren are grown, many grandmothers like me still have more future to fill. They go back to college, pursue another career opportunity and revive abandoned pastimes.
It was refreshing to learn that grandmothers are now being recognized as a valuable resource to communities. In times of stress or instability grandmothers draw on their life experience and add perspective to problem-solving. They provide cultural continuity, advice and spiritual guidance.
Through my work in 7 countries on 5 continents, I learned that grandmothers can be a powerful force for building community, addressing societal challenges and advocating for the environment, the education of children, and human rights. Grandmothers are the keepers of the culture, and their power is usually demonstrated through oral storytelling and writing.
Turning 75 this year, I was ready for another big change. My next chapter needed to be more than a bucket list. It would be bigger than a career change, rather a life change. I wanted to join the ranks as a changemaker.
I found relevance and encouragement through The Grandmother Collective. It is more than just a collection of grandmothers. Your mission to project a more realistic and positive image of grandmothers, is important. I like this “movement” and the people I’ve met. I feel valued for my life experience and evolved wisdom.
Not everyone in the Grandmother Collective has birthed children. Some are “aunties” or anthropologists from agencies or organizations which serve older women. We don’t share political views, religious beliefs or our grandkids’ newest sports trophies. We are serious older women who have “been around the block” a few times and have valuable lessons to share or ambitions to pursue. We celebrate our grandchildren and ambitiously look for ways to make the world a better place for them.
I joined the monthly coffee chats and quarterly visioning sessions on Zoom. It is inspiring to hear what other courageous women are doing, saying and organizing in the intercity and in other countries. Some grandmothers must get up in the wee hours to participate in the Zoom sessions. Their commitment inspires me.
I discovered there were others who were interested in writing their stories. One thing led to another and now I lead a writing group of grandmothers. We call ourselves The Wabi Sabi Writers in honor of the lifestyle that values simplicity and more than tolerates imperfection. No pressure – our writing can be perfectly imperfect and worthy of sharing with the world. I also attend the monthly Storyteller Circle where the ancient art of oral storytelling is kept alive. I am so grateful for the opportunities you provide, the connections you facilitate and the recognition of grandmothers as a dynamic force in addressing the issues of our world. I feel like we share the power to change the world in small but meaningful ways. My grandchildren and their grandchildren will surely benefit.
I also write for a neighborhood magazine. This allows me to connect with neighbors as I help them share their unique stories.
Like other modern grandmothers, I am a changemaker!
Sincerely,
Nancy Haberstich

The house where everyone is welcome
With the typical leave with your bellies full & endless laughing
Yet I’m the one always eager to leave
I cannot endure any longer
My feet, my poor feet that bleeds
From the eggshells on which I’m walking
High on the clouds where my thoughts are always roaming
I may as well be as high as the 3rd floor
Yet my room is away from all others
It’s the only way I can get peace & quiet anymore

Even my nervous system is dysregulated
The world is dark
Wanting to paint my walls black to match
My insides tainted black & blue blue & black
I’m looking on the wrong side of the fence
Yet this house is far from that white picket it seems we’ve all dreamt
With so much angst
And so much depression that surrounds
The creaks in the floor might as well make no sound
There’s crying
There’s yelling
Yet this house holds a silence that’s never escaping
With a big backyard & a pool so befitting
Or sitting in my room alone
I’m actually a poor swimmer
So to say I was drowning in chaos I do intend literally

What makes this house a home
Is it that brand new kitchen
The one where a meal is shared
Yet eating in company I feel sickened
I should be grateful
With this marble table
and shiny new appliances
With the kitchen being the soul of the home
Yet I heat up my food
& it never seems to not be cold

The basement has seen games & laughter
As has the rest of this house
For me it’s trapped in the memories thereafter
I can’t remember when I’ve last seen it empty
How odd, how opposite
What would’ve resembled the emptiness inside
Is mirrored back with the piles of clutter
Clutter here, there
Oh the trouble we get in
From it never being clean
Yet somehow items getting bought
Buying & buying

A clean home is said to give you mental clarity
For when there’s mess all around
It may be because it’s reflecting mental organization that’s not to be found
Sadly, I’ve learned to detach from this house
Here clutter, there clutter
If it was clean, I wonder would I then feel any better I wonder

I’ve gone back to this house
The one where it does not feel like home
It’s now foreign to me
Yet it’s the place I’ve grown up & known
I’ve felt myself in a trance
For a while could only see those unfortunate flashbacks
I don’t want to live here again
It seems that fun, innocent childhood I could’ve had has come to an end

Leaving the front door for the final time
I never looked back
As we get older & reminisce
We want to own our childhood home
A feeling I’m afraid I will always lack

It was a hot sunny day in Lynchburg Va. I had just got my fiancé, Alfreda ready for her doctors appointment. Our spirits were high as she was only going in for a routine checkup. While in the hospital, Lynchburg General, we were notified that she had a stomach infection and that she would need to be admitted. Still, we had no worries as we figured she’d be released in a week or two after taking a round of antibiotics. Unfortunately, we were wrong. After a months time, my fiancé was still in the hospital. On Mother’s Day, i went to take her her Mother’s Day gifts just to find her unconscious in her bed. I called for a nurse and after about twenty minutes of them trying to revive her, they finally transferred her to ICU. I was livid as to how she could have been left alone in her room alone in such a dire situation with no one watching her. After this, we asked for her to be transferred to another hospital which they refused. My fiancé came out of that situation okay but by this time she had been in the hospital for two months. I ended up getting barred from the hospital and was unable to ensure my fiancé was adequately cared for in my absence. During this time, they performed surgery on her stomach. It seemed as she had came away unscathed. However, later that night she fell into a coma due to internal bleeding due to them unsuccessfully stitching her stomach back together. My fiancé sat in a coma for two weeks and they still refused to let me see her. She eventually awoke but I couldn’t speak to her as she was on a ventilator. My fiancé ended up incurring a stage four pressure ulcer on her buttocks, VRE, gangrene in both legs which required amputation as well as sepsis. But I was still barred from visiting her. Only way I was able to see her again was if I agreed to have her placed on hospice and I would have to watch her die at home. My fiancé was a dialysis patient and on hospice she can’t receive dialysis meaning she would die within three weeks without dialysis. It was a hard decision but it was either let her die in hospital alone and never see my fiancé again, or let her come home for a few weeks until she ultimately passes. So, I brought her home. She wasn’t the same, but at least she was home and I could spend her last few moments with her. My fiancé passed thirteen days after coming home on hospice. Lynchburg General changed my life forever. They robbed me of the love of my life. I love you,sweetheart. Goodbye, Alfreda.

The unknown boardwalk that holds the story of my life. 

   I grew up on a small island outside of Puerto Rico; Vieques, or ‘‘Biekes, the true name of the island given by the Tainos, the first to settle in this place and call it home. When I was a young child, my biological father was not in my life for the most part, but in his way, he left a legacy in my heart. I remember he would always take me to the beach, specifically “El Malecón” in Vieques, PR, a boardwalk used to transport sugarcane via train, submarines, and the major source of income for most families of local Viequenses. We would have the beach all to ourselves most of the time, he would teach me about living with nature, the stories of our people (Taíno descendants), and how he could hold his breath long enough to get lobsters by hand. By the time I was old enough to understand the world around me, I never realized I was the product of a long, bloody, and hostile takeover; From 1939 until 2003, the US military stole our land, made us lose our identity, closed and contaminated our soil, our water, our spirit, and our souls. “El malecón” was the only place they never touched, after some convincing and understanding, it was our sacred place away from the chaos, the war between natives and “gringos. It gave us a standing ovation every morning when the sun came up to kiss our skin with the warmth of a new day; At night, the sky and sea would combine and give the Milky Way galaxy the entire stage to shine brightly and clearly. It became the only place where everyone was equal, all looking for a cold drink to settle the heatstroke of the hot Puerto Rican summers while forgetting all their troubles. War, hunger, inequality, division, and race were not topics of conversation. The oppressor and the oppressed could share their pains of being puppets to the Grand Master’s mind, dressed in an Uncle Sam costume, could not find out anyone’s true identity when the night took over in “El Malecon”, when the artificial lights would turn on along with loud salsa music playing every corner, we are all the same soul longing to find a home. 

“El Malecón” was and will forever hold a special place in my heart; It watched me grow, held my ancestors’ blood from battle, and carried my dead among the waves and open seas. My Sunday afternoons consisted of walking along the long white sand, the warm salty water and the beating yellow ball on the back of my neck, I stole shells from the shores, I have taken bounties from the great Lord Poseidon and fed my family multiple times, my heart met her death one starry night in the Malecón and I thought I wouldn’t be able to survive and see another day… but here I am, standing again between the sea and the land, the burning sensation of sand under my bare feet, the salty smell of my once home, it strangely welcomes me. I feel the sense of longing for the island I once knew, I sense a fear from not recognizing how the waves crash anymore, the land and the sea don’t speak to me like the used to…the air feels strange, a smell of old gunpowder, iron and sweat covers the mile long path of clear blue waters. The lobsters don’t come to shore anymore, they are hiding. Am I hiding, too? Am I just waiting for the universe to show me the path to find my way back home? Do I have a home? I can feel the breeze grace my cheeks as I stare at the empty boats waiting for their people to drive them into the middle of the “Mar Caribe.” I stare at the night sky, which never fails to amaze me. I thank this place, tho it is small and many will never see it, they never will hear about ‘El Malecón’, my island and my people’s stories, yet this is my home, I am home, it will forever be my home, it doesn’t matter how many fighter jets fill my skies, doesn’t matter how many people leave, until the last seashell is gone from the shores, until I am buried amongst my own. 

When I was a junior in college, I had the chance to study abroad. I was an International Business student, minoring in Spanish, so I chose Madrid. The program mandated students to stay with a host family, which is something I would not have chosen myself, but was open to. Other than college, this was my first significant time away from home. I was secretly terrified, yet exuded the swagger and confidence only a 20-year-old can. From what I’d heard, study abroad was for socializing and partying, not for worrying about grades or the daily struggles of regular student life. I anxiously awaited the travel and new friendships I would make during my six months. This was 2007. The beginning of Google Maps and Facebook. International travel meant buying a local SIM card for cell phones; texting or calling, especially while in transit, wasn’t easy. I landed in Madrid with an address scribbled on paper, relying on eight years of classroom Spanish to direct my taxi. Forty-five minutes later, I arrived at an apartment building in Salamanca, a charming, friendly barrio. My host mom and her 13-year-old son greeted me. Neither spoke English, and to my surprise, I barely understood Spanish. They spoke fast, with local slang and the distinct Madrid “th” lisp on their ‘c’s and ‘z’s. The apartment was a modest three-bedroom with a lovely balcony. The foyer held books, self-portraits, trinkets, and a hamster cage in the corner. My room, a small space off the foyer, featured a twin bed under a large window, old armoire, colorful marble tiles, and a desk piled with Spanish literature. This would be my home, and they, my family, for the next six months.My host mom cooked and did my laundry. She was often stressed but knew how to unwind, frequently hosting friends and engaging in lively conversations about books, movies, and politics. While she tried to make me feel as comfortable as possible, I often felt awkward and a burden. She and her son had frequent, loud arguments. From what I could make out, they were seemingly typical mother-son clashes over a teenager’s desire for independence versus a Spanish mother’s protective instincts. She owned a pet grooming business and watched her clients’ dogs on weekends, and every weekend we had a different dog staying with us, which brought me comfort. Madrid felt like Spain’s New York City—bustling and hardworking, yet adept at relaxation and leisure. I tried my best to speak Spanish, but felt deflated when people responded in English. Weekdays involved an hour-long metro commute to and from school. My class schedule was more intense than expected; Full school days, mostly in Spanish, and certainly not “blow-off” courses. I was envious of a group of American students in my program, mostly living in a house together, having a much more typical study abroad experience…a fun one. I longed to hang out with friends after school, not feel on edge around a new “mom” I couldn’t communicate with. Yearning for home comforts, I would spend afternoons re-watching DVDs of Friends I had brought from home (remember, no Netflix yet) and walking past twenty cafes just to find a Starbucks for a vanilla latte, seeking a familiar comfort. It was a kind of loneliness I had never known. I waited to settle into a rhythm, for the homesickness to subside, hoping to be swept away by my journey instead of counting the days until I returned home, but the language barrier created a profound sense of isolation. My lack of confidence prevented me from looking like the fool I needed to be in order to truly speak learn the language. I called my parents weekly for as many minutes as I could afford. Looking back, I spent much of those calls complaining about the cultural differences, the food, and my host family, when the truth was I was simply lonely, missing home, and unable to articulate it. I felt excluded, admiring this culture from the outside, but not truly feeling a part of it. Unsettled, yet still feeling immense intellectual and creative stimulation from the city I was in. On my loneliest days, I began forcing myself to leave my Friends DVDs and my small bedroom. I would walk the city streets, observe people in the park, and absorb the city’s sounds. I started to embrace being solo and enjoying the aspects of the culture I loved: the languid days, the siesta, the botellón, the tapas and bar culture, the architecture, museums, old bookstores, and the general way of life the Spanish people lead. Looking back nearly two decades later, Madrid didn’t change me in the ways I expected. I didn’t return home speaking fluent Spanish, nor did I leave with a host of new friends. Madrid taught me how to be with myself. It showed me that to escape the deep black hole of loneliness, you must literally get out—out of your home, out of your comfort zone, out of your head. To look foolish sometimes. Madrid, you are where I learned I don’t have to be lonely being alone. 

Dear Odyssey,

On December 13, 2021, you became a part of my life. A symbol of independence and the beginning of a long healing journey. This journey would many ups and really dark downs, but it has shaped me into the person who I am today. I would not be that person if I did not take that first step on that December day to purchase you.

Around 8:45 AM on that day, I was declared free from my abusive marriage. It had taken years to become free, which also involved having to relearn how to be independent and what it meant to love myself. With leaving the courthouse, I had to lose the van that I knew as mine because my now ex-husband’s name being present on the title of the van, and given the SUV, which had my name on it. With the overwhelming feeling of defeat as I watched my favorite van drive away with what was my life for five years, I knew I needed to get a fresh start, and fast. I went straight to a car dealership with my now-poor credit and praying to be approved for anything, and then I saw you. A black van that had the same space as my previous one-not nearly as nice, but it would be one thing that the other van could never be-fully mine. With some miracle, I drove off the lot with you, gleaming with pride and the hope that I could do this on my own-that quickly changed.

With just getting out of this abusive marriage, I did not realize what other abusive relationships I had involved myself in. Where I was currently living-the main reason I needed a van to begin with- was not the best place to find myself or work on healing. If anything, it created many more small wounds that built up to the demise of you and I. I was mainly taking care of three children from the start of the morning until they fell asleep. I would drive them to appointments, events, the store, and even take them every Sunday to where their parents could have an entire date day to themselves. One kiddo also struggled to fall asleep without being driven around for a minimum of thirty minutes, to sometimes ninety minutes. This became my favorite part of the day-it was my chance to escape. I could roll down the windows and let the summer air in while listening to my music for a change. I would get to feel my emotions that I bottled up from that day and from continuously being a pawn. It got to the point I began dreading the drive to the house because I knew our time was up, and I would get lectured passive-aggressively about why it took so long to get the kiddo to sleep. I was so tired of the fighting. Eventually, I would find any reason to get out of the house-even if that meant taking all the children with me. This continued to lead to more and more fights, creating more self-hate for not being good enough, and eventually led to a dark time.

I found different ways to cope with the pain that I was going through-drinking, self-harm, and eventually, adultery. I had become so numb that I was no longer thinking about consequences but how to get rid of the pain this very instant. One night, my best friend’s husband, who I was staying with, made a pass, and I did not stop it. This became a new way to cope with the pain- I mean, I already thought I was a piece of shit, so why not? On January 27, 2023, my best friend found out about the affair. Rightfully so, I was told to grab a trash bag, put whatever belongings it could fit, take the car seats out of my car, and never come back. I felt the consequences of my actions in trying to numb immediately. Not being able to see the now four faces of those children that I have loved and losing everything was a major wake- up call. But it was you and me-it was what I had been asking for all along, right? So we drove to a grocery store parking lot, grabbed my favorite bottle of vodka that I could chug, and were ready to end it all. I found my trusted knife that has helped me numb the pain for the past few years and was ready to say my goodbyes. Since I only had one friend left, the goodbyes would not take super long, so the chugging began. After a few hours of talking with that one friend, he showed me that there was more to keep fighting for, so we did. I lived with you for a few days until a got to courage to reach out to my sister to stay with her. Everything was looking up again, and then you took a turn for the worse.

A few months after moving in with my sister, issues started, and I could not save you. It took me some time to find the right time to say goodbye to you, and I did not realize how much of an impact you had on my healing journey. You were there to show me I could be independent. You were there for me through the high times and the low times. Now, as I am watching you go onto the back of the towing truck, hurt is all I feel. Like I am losing a part of me when, in reality, you were the last thing that I was holding onto from my past. So, even though this goodbye is difficult, it is necessary for me to continue to grow. So, thank you for everything you have helped me through. I never thought a broken, over- looked van would be what helped save me, but they always say broken things are beautiful too, and I now understand that.
Love,
Ashley

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Dear Labor and Delivery, The day I found I was pregnant, I was sitting in this pastel green room in the back corner of the pediatric doctor’s office I’d been going to since I was a baby. I remember gagging at the sight of what I assumed was a slimy cheese puff handprint on the wall next to me when the nurse entered the room. Timidly, she looked down, unsure of my reaction as she quietly said, “You’re pregnant.” 

As her words met my ears, it felt like I was being pulled into a time loop of the past nineteen years of my life. Over and over, they played in my head. Reminding me that I was not ready to be a mother.
 
Honestly, I wasn’t even sure of who I was. My identity was lost in the shadows of my childhood. I was still the little girl who tucked the edge of the blanket under her feet each night to keep the monsters away. How was I going to be responsible for protecting someone? 

I was terrified. 

But what I didn’t realize then was that the fear I felt wasn’t something for me to stumble over. It was a stepping stone toward healing. 

 As the nurse wheeled me down that long hall toward those brown double doors, my heart began to race. I entered that delivery room still that same scared little girl—the girl who hadn’t really lived much. The girl who held so much hurt that she couldn’t count on her fingers how many times she thought it best if she weren’t alive—a girl who had the same thought that day. 

So, Labor and Delivery. 

I want to thank you for saving my life. 

Not because I almost died that day, but because my son was not the only one in the room who was being born. 

 I want to thank you for the warm welcome. It was a feeling I had never felt before.  

I want to thank you for grounding me. 

I had always felt out of place, but the second his bright blue eyes locked with mine, I knew exactly where I was meant to be. I knew I belonged. 

I want to thank you for teaching me to value my life. 

I used to be one to wish my days away. Searching for something to make the time go by faster, even if it was just for a second. Now, time just slips away from me, and I can‘t ever seem to have enough. When they said that the years go by fast, I didn’t think I’d ever find myself wanting them back. That was until he took his first breath. 

I want to thank you for showing me that love conquers all. 

I still tuck the edge of the blanket under my feet to keep the monsters out. But now, there are little feet cuddled up next to mine. I read him bedtime stories and sing lullabies. I am still scared, but that won’t stop me from protecting him.  

So, thank you, Labor and Delivery 

Thank you for helping me labor and for delivering me from who I used to be to the mother I am today. 

This is actually a very easy topic for me. This place that I am going to tell you about means everything to me. Honestly, it probably saved my life. To give a quick set up, I was a pre-teen, the oldest of 8 kids, and felt out of place. I didn’t feel like I was getting the attention, or the love from my mother, or the man that was living with us at the time that my other siblings were receiving. After staying out all night, stealing money from my mother for about a year, I was sent away to a group home. St. Joseph’s was the name of the place where I spent 6 years, from 7th grade until I graduated high school. When I arrived, I was this nerdy, unathletic, scared of my own shadow kid. St. Joe’s simply transformed me, set the stage for me in becoming the man I am today. The counselors were of different backgrounds, ages, male and female both. As a matter of fact, as a side note, one of our female counselors who was actually a nun, who I had a huge crush on. She eventually, left the convent, and got married, but I digress. I learned to play sports, becoming captain, and one of the star athletes on campus. Because I was still that nerd, I went to school off campus, shoutout to PVC Middle School & Croton-Harmon High where I learned not only scholastically, but culturally as well, being one of a handful of African Americans at the school. But I learned to be a leader, developed empathy, which got me working with younger kids, as a coach, as a mentor. My first girlfriend was from the group home, as it was coed. Where the confidence was totally nonexistent, when I arrived, I was completely the opposite 6 years later. I graduated from high school, went on to college, found my niche as a broadcasting major. I learned about the “finer things” in life. Most importantly, I learned how to become a man, a strong, black man, how to be a father!!! 3 months before my arrival, I was contemplating suicide. St. Joseph’s home, in Peekskill, NY. rescued me, transformed me, quite simply saved my life!!! It no longer exists, but I DO EXIST because of them.

A tribute to the land that mirrored me back to myself. A reflection you have to see with your own eyes and feel with your own heart. I was summoned to deliver a friend’s familiar from the shores of the east coast. This majikal village lies deep in the mountains of the Kenai peninsula of Alaska. Only accessible by boat or plane, Seldovia is her name. With Russian roots and multicultural occupants, she changed the ways I perceived the world. In only 11 months, I completely shifted my reality. Solitude gave me the space to view life beyond the veil and truly love all the parts of me. I hid behind the masks as I sought external validation. The alcohol drowned my awareness, causing me to land in sticky situations. Her soil cleansed my deepest wounds, where tree roots meet the ocean. Revitalized, my soul realized the toxicity needed to be released. Unknowingly, battling addiction, my body finally rejected the chemicals I was suffocating my lungs with and submerging my liver in. After years of reckless decisions, I impulsively quit my job at the bar. I packed my house and said farewell to my newfound friends. I flew back to my roots in central California to get back to the deepest truths that lied dormant within me. Today I stand proudly with a clear conscience. 3 years and 6 months of freedom, I look back at my healing journey and give all thanks and praises to my highest self that led me to the distant lands of Seldovia. Life is so much more beautiful, with clarity comes comfort. Sobriety gives me peace of mind. That’s just a little piece of my mind.

“Those screams aren’t drunk tourists,” the artist whispered in my ear. “Musketeers are battling the cardinal’s guards for the Queen’s necklace. And that off-key busker? That’s Quasimodo singing from the roof of Notre-Dame. You don’t see Paris with your eyes. Only with your heart. Saint-Exupéry wrote that. I’d say: after a bottle of wine.”
Actually, it was after three. He wouldn’t even talk to me before the first. Our journey through Paris began in his apartment, but now we’re stumbling out of his studio in a neighborhood travel blogs call vibrant.
“Don’t stare,” the artist mutters. “Weed dealers. Armed. Two hundred years ago, they were robbing Dumas’s heroes. Today, they serve screenwriters and film stars.”
This was my first time in Paris. Day three. The exact moment I began falling in love with the city.
We’re on our way to his main buyer. At three in the morning. The man lives in a top-floor apartment with a private elevator. His wife meets us at the door, still half-asleep, apologizing: “All I can offer is a thirty-year-old Armagnac.”
We talk about Picasso —how the difference between Spanish and French pronunciation shows up in his brushstrokes. This very apartment, it turns out, was once a set for a film from the French New Wave from the 1950s. The man, now the owner of an ad agency, built barricades back in ’68, hurled stones at riot cops, protested soulless capitalism. He met his wife on the frontlines. Now he collects rebellious art. Sold off all his Impressionists.
My high school French teacher would never have understood him. She believed Paris was men in berets, women in lace dresses and wide-brimmed Monet hats. Lovers meeting beneath the Eiffel Tower, reciting poetry.
Reality? A mess. I’m disappointed. Counting down the days to my flight. Waiters are rude. Crowds so thick you can barely see the art in the Louvre. Trash lines the streets. The Eiffel Tower is just a circus of souvenir peddlers.
I checked the tourist box: been there, done that. Never coming back.
But the first time I felt like I was watching the wrong movie came outside Notre-Dame. The real Paris—my Paris—was behind an old bookstore door on the banks of the Seine. Shakespeare and Company.
From the outside, just an old shop. Inside? Magic. Time frozen in the 20th century. One of the original founders, Mr. Whitman, still lingers like a guardian of literary ghosts. Joyce typed Ulysses here. Fitzgerald partied here. When the current owner talks about the roaring American ‘20s, you’d think they might stop by later for wine.
He holds a key. Upstairs: a low-ceilinged attic where tomorrow’s literary stars sleep off cheap red wine. They live there for free. No time limit. The only rule? Promise you’re writing a book. No one checks. You just put in a few hours selling books downstairs.
I know where I’ll go when life falls apart.
And I know exactly where I won’t go back to: a café on the Champs-Élysées with the worst pizza I’ve ever had. Just fifty feet away, though, a culinary temple. The best restaurant of my life. Just a house, you walk in like you’re visiting a friend. No dining hall with dozens of tables. No noise. Waiters move like ghosts. Plates just appear. You have no idea what you’re eating. Molecular cuisine—flavors layered like a Notre-Dame musical: sweet and bitter at once. In Paris, beauty and disaster often arrive together. Esméralda and Quasimodo. That’s the deal.
Here, eating at your desk is illegal. Food is sacred. I once spent thirty minutes choosing cheese. Each question from the cheesemonger narrowed it down like a quiz, eliminating ten cheeses out of 300 on the counter: When’s dinner? How many guests? Young or old? Should the wine lead, or the cheese? Music or political debate?
I like visiting Paris during presidential elections. It always feels like good vs. evil. I can’t vote here, but for the last 15 years it’s felt like someone dangerous might win—and then, like in the novels, d’Artagnan saves the day. Good prevails. Champagne bottles pop open on the Champs-Élysées. People drink from the neck, toasting the new—or old—president. It’s so Parisian. Turning an election into a party.
This city teaches the art of doing sophisticated nothing. And still getting everything done. It shows you beauty where a million others miss it. It spins fairy tales out of the ordinary.
That’s why Hemingway advised: see Paris young. It’ll change your life.
I know.
That’s why I love you, Paris.

To the IKEA on Park Manor Boulevard:
I love a good Swedish meatball as much as the next girl, but helping a single, 25 year-old man pick out furniture for his empty Pittsburgh apartment isn’t exactly my ideal Saturday night. No offense, nothing sucks the life out of a room like shopping for mass-produced, minimalistic Scandinavian furniture.
I mean, it was technically a first date. But first dates require a lot of courage, and courage was not something I had in abundance at that time. IKEA, though, seemed…safe. It’s a date that can masquerade as a simple errand if things go wrong. And at that point in my life, I needed “safe”. Correction: I wanted “safe”. But, you know what they say about a place like IKEA: You never go in with a plan. The store just tells you what you need, and you oblige.

I think that my date and I came for a mattress, a desk, and a coffee table: the bare necessities of 20-something urban living. Despite our list, we stopped in every single section, admiring each hyper-detailed scene–you know, the ones that help people better envision what the furniture they’re eyeing will look like when it’s assembled and incorporated into its potential space. As we wove our way through, messing around by playing games, making up stories, and gabbing about color schemes and curtain choices, the irony wasn’t lost on me. My first sample of doing life with this guy making furniture shopping feel like an amusement park. I was having an amazing time, but I still had my guard up, bracing for that all-too-familiar pit in my stomach to give way, ready for the moment he would “casually” mention how this desk chair was his ex’s favorite color, or how he’d need a sturdy mattress to keep up with all the girls he planned to sleep with, or how I was such a good friend for helping him pick out furniture.

But that moment never came. In fact, somewhere between the kitchenware and the plants, something shifted that even the most hypervigilant parts of me couldn’t detect. Discussions over the best cabinet color became explanations on why dark-washed woods reminded him of summers in that cabin in Maine. Preference of kitchen fixtures became recounting summers sitting around the table with my friend who had since passed away. In hindsight, we were so severely over the line of polite first date talk that it would have made even my most seasoned dater cringe. But in the moment, I heard no alarm bells, felt no gut feelings. The image of him in my life was coming more into focus by the second. He would be a perfect fit, I knew it.

IKEA, you may be the world’s quirkiest spot for a first date, but I left that day with the love of my life, and I in no small way attribute that to the playful whimsy of IKEA creating a space which coaxed out an uncharacteristic vulnerability in me–one that let me relax into to the possibility of not only loving, but letting myself be loved, after so long. I still think back to that date when times are tough. I think about watching him pantomiming the mundane intricacies of everyday life in a fake office or display kitchen, and how badly I wanted to experience life with him for real. It feels poetic, then, that I’m writing this, snuggled up next to him against my MALM bed frame. He really is exactly what my space was missing.

Dear Labor and Delivery,

Though it has been 18 years since my last visit, I can still smell your aroma and hear the steady stream of faint chatter when I close my eyes. I can still feel the bedrails beneath my hands and the IV in my arm.
Oh the anticipation and excitement of what was to come! To finally be able to meet and hold my little miracle, the one I grew inside of me, this little human life that I created! And then, it was time. I heard her cry, heard the Nurse say “something’s wrong”, heard the Doctor sternly call out “give Mom her baby”. I was so confused, scared, and worried. What was going on? What was wrong? Where’s my baby? What happened? And then she was in my arms, my perfect little one, so beautiful. And then I heard the words. “She has Down syndrome.”
Three years later, I came to visit again This time though, there was no excitement – no anticipation. This time was different.
While our daughter was safe with family, you kept me as comfortable as possible. You gave me a safe place to let myself go. You shared my tears with me, let me scream, you passed no judgement. When the time finally came, there was no first breath, there were no cries, no one rushing to take vitals – just silence. My baby was gone, an angel now in Heaven. As they placed her in my arms, my lips touched her skin and quiet tears fell.
You shared two of the most important moments in my life with me. They were beautiful, scary, and tragic. But in each moment, you helped me realize my strength.

Oh Minneapolis,

I have a confession to make. I never wanted to leave you. When I decided to attend graduate school in Chicago, a naive part of me believed everything would be the same. I thought my connection to my family and friends would overpower the 7-hour distance, but all it did was keep me from embracing the lifestyle I could’ve had here. In every neighborhood I explored, I sought small reminders of you. I thought about your crunchy leaves falling into the muddy grass. I thought about the bright sun glistening off your frozen lakes. I even thought about, and grieved, the pink, peachy skies your summer sunsets painted. I made new connections, tasted Chicago flavors, and slowly fell in love with the city. I embraced everything my new home showcased to me: the blue line, the endless taco shops, and why it’s nicknamed the “windy city”. I started to see myself differently. I wasn’t a daughter, a dancer, an older sister, or a best friend in Chicago, and that scared me. Who could I be if not related to other people? Who could I be if not related to responsibilities? I still tried to be all those things when my family and friends needed me, but I overextended myself. As I learned to let loose and let go of the self-image you gifted me, your reminders turned into nostalgia. Your leaves, lakes, and sunsets became symbols of Minnesota, and not just moments I missed and grieved.

I wanted to tell you about the first friend I made in Chicago. This was a few months after moving into my new apartment. I made a friend through an online app. We met up at a cafe, walked around the neighborhood, and had already made inside jokes in our friendship. It was a sunny autumn day with a slight wind chill. It felt familiar to me. It reminded me of you, but in a way that didn’t hold me back. It reminded me of the friends I made because of you. I was nervous to make a friend as an adult, but those fears disappeared once I realized I could trust you. I was comforted by the way you taught me to connect and engage with others; how you taught me to relate and love others. It was one of my better days since moving.

When I got back to my apartment after our hangout, there was a package waiting for me. It was a going-away/thank-you gift from my old dance bosses. In the package, there was a T-shirt from the studio’s 10th anniversary event that I missed because I was moving. Before I knew it, tears were dripping from my face and onto the shirt. It was an odd feeling. For a moment, it felt like my two worlds were clashing in front of me rather than in my head. It was odd how both moments brought me joy, guilt, love, and grievances at the same time. I loved making a new friend, but a part of me grieved moving on from you. I also loved the gift from my bosses, but another part of me felt guilty about missing an important event, not just for them, but for the whole community. It was an odd feeling because I experienced myself as both identities at the same time. I wasn’t sad, just lonely.

It’s almost been a year since moving away from you. I still find it hard to live or see myself without your soft, flurries of snow or your beautiful playgrounds. I’m still learning to hold onto your memories while letting your lessons help me navigate the world. Oh, Minneapolis. Thank you for your love, but I have another confession to make. I have to let you go. I don’t mean I’ll forget you. I have to let go of everything you allowed me to be. I have to let myself go from the love and memories you make me seek here. Maybe in a few years, when I’ve matured, I will return to you. I will always belong to you. I will always look for you. This new lifestyle calls for me to embrace it fully with open arms, and I think I’m ready to say goodbye to you. I trust you’ve prepared me to do that.

Goodbye, but not forever.

Best,

Lyla

I was born in California. I was a native of California. Just about almost all my relatives have lived in California for most of half a century. I should have lived in that golden era for most of my life. Until my Dad lost his company. The first job position was in a small town in the center of the Midwest: Missouri. My parents believed that though it was difficult and they never wanted to move out of their home state, they were conceived that it was meant to be.

I wasn’t even four yet when I moved to the great Ozarks on a hot August day. Wish I could say we were greeted by sweet country folks in the beginning. However, at the start, it wasn’t always a nice warm welcome. Before more businesses came into view, my family said that the small town reminded them of Mayberry from one of the old TV shows. Generations upon generations had lived there. Some marriages got started as young as seventeen. Most things are slow and simple—traveling anywhere in the world was far from the minds of most locals. Just plain commitment. I’ve been told that the only way to fit in was owning a pickup truck, a rifle for hunting, a loyal dog, or having all three. Because we didn’t have either one, we were jokingly told not to tell anyone about that.

Always loved the home I grew up in. A brick house with a backyard and creek hidden in the privacy behind more trees than one could count. I used to think every kid grew up in a house like mine. It wasn’t until we had some kids visit us and stay amazed at ours, dreaming of having a house of their own someday, away from the day-to-day home in the apartments where they lived.

I was homeschooled and loved it that way. However, just because you’re homeschooled, doesn’t mean that you wouldn’t have bullies or drama. I have quite a few. “When you all graduate, that person will move, and you’ll never see them again,” I’ve been told, believed it, and then once in a while see that person staying in the small town. I guess they must love one place.

While some may get under the skin, it does not mean that everyone is like that. Sometimes it may take a while for others to get to know and warm up. And I can confidently say, not often, when you are walking alone, whether in the rain or carrying groceries, there may be someone driving by who offers you a ride. No one in California does that. In the last few years, whenever someone had a baby, died, or was sick, there would be an organized meal train coming by. And there is no doubt for extreme support for any small local business.

Small town taught me to appreciate all things, even the smallest that can easily be taken for granted. Country life taught me the value of hard work, smarter, not harder incentives, as well as what character to have and not to have. The Ozarks gave me something to look forward to every season: showers in spring, blooming greens in summer, and the cold to have an excuse to wear sweaters in the winter. But my favorite is the vibrant colors of autumn— whether passing by someone’s front tree, or seeing valleys of endless color. I will confess that Missouri weather can be quite chaotic. But if I focus on these little joys that seasons and weathers bring, it’s more worth it.

Now, as much as I am grateful for growing up in a small town, I still love adventures throughout the state to explore with my husband. Most places may be believed to be all the same, yet it is not true. Each cavern is different to go in. All rivers are different sizes and reflections like mirrors. Not every tree is small. Not every town is alike. Any landmark has a history, a story, a legend that needs to be kept being told.

Will we someday move somewhere? Probably. And that is okay. I have enjoyed my little life, and I am still enjoying the life I have right now. I never thought that I would one day move to one of Missouri’s popular cities like St. Louis, but I’m surprisingly loving it. Yet, no matter where I live or where I will move, I will never forget where I came from with humble beginnings, and knowing that we continue to need great people around us, even if they drive a pickup truck.

Dear Hong Kong,

As an eight-year-old, I dreaded the sixteen-hour flight from my home in Portland, Oregon, to you. Crisp pine trees and unsullied mountain air got replaced by your skyscrapers of apartments and thick humidity overlaid by the scents of steamed buns and roasted meats. Mom and Dad called you their true home, and they smiled more during our visit. Their pace quickened as they wound through your streets with me and my siblings in tow, navigating by memory. Meanwhile, I wished to return to America immediately, but I was trapped.

Ma Ma and Ye Ye, my paternal grandparents, lived in your countryside. Their place was riddled with mosquitoes, and it seemed drab to a young, naive girl like me. There were only the remnants of their pig farm, an outhouse, and a television in the small living room that spoke words I didn’t comprehend.
Dad reverted to his schoolboy self—walking barefoot around the property, pulling out weeds for Ma Ma, plucking longan fruit from her tree. He enjoyed going to Costco in our tidy Oregon suburb and worked in a cubicle at Intel, yet seemed more relaxed in these humble surroundings. I lay in bed, sandwiched between my older brother and younger sister, miserable and jetlagged. “How did Dad even survive here?” I thought.

In the city, Mom’s family lived in a second-story flat. Mom never verbalized “I miss you” to her mother, my Po Po, but I could see it in the way that she held Po Po’s hand as they crossed the street. A taxi took us up a winding road to our maternal grandfather Gong Gong’s grave in Tao Fong Shan, a hill and cemetery overlooking the city. Mom was only ten when he died, and she described him as a kind pastor, a generous man. Her face looked pensive as she placed flowers on his tombstone. I shuffled my feet, feeling awkward about a grandparent I never knew.

Fourteen years later, I flew back to you with my family. More grown up and worldlier, I was curious about my perception of you now. I’d recently graduated from college, thinking I embodied a confident, independent adult. But then a move to Austin, Texas, led to loneliness swallowing me whole, catalyzed by a new city and job that were predominantly and jarringly white. As just one of two Asian women on an eighty-person staff, I was floundering and unsure if people could truly understand me. Was I more American, or Cantonese?

I hoped that going to Ma Ma’s house would help me. Ye Ye had passed away from cancer years ago, leaving Ma Ma alone, but she still grinned broadly as we approached her house.

“Hoi Hoi!” She called me by my Cantonese name, jubilant. We barbecued chicken wings and pineapple over a charcoal fire in her front yard, chatting and bantering. I was happy to be here for the first time, and my eyes swept Ma Ma’s land with new eyes. It was peaceful and away from chaos, a physical reminder of Dad’s rise from farmer’s son to the American Dream. Earlier, Dad had shown me the poetry Ye Ye had written in chalk on the old farmhouse’s walls. It hit me then that my privileged life only existed because Dad’s family had worked so hard to better themselves. I could become anything I wanted because of them. Regret swooped through my chest; I had taken them for granted. Ma Ma watched us go when we said goodbye, and I glanced back.
At Gong Gong’s grave in Tao Fong Shan, I thought about how Mom had experienced much of life without a father, yet it hadn’t dampened her passionate spirit. She’d walked home from school through Tao Fong Shan in pitch darkness, practicing her steps from dance class to fend off fear. Both my parents were hardy people who had been transformed by you—I recognized that now.

I ambled on a path that led to a lookout, where a towering stone cross stood. Chinese characters along its width spelled, “It is finished,” from the biblical book of John—a memorial to Gong Gong’s legacy and devotion. A lump formed in my throat. How did I not care before?

Revisiting you made me realize that I couldn’t think of my identity without embracing the older generation who’d paved the way. My family belonged with you, as did I. It wasn’t right to deny you and your impact on my life. So much more tied me to you, not just my skin color or my eyes—your culture, your history, your pride. I drank you in on that overlook, the stone cross my comforting companion. You became a place of beauty and memory that forever left your mark on my heart. “I’ll come back again,” I promised.

Love,
Melody

While you were never really my room, you’ve somehow etched a place for yourself in my heart. It’s a little strange when I think about it, there’s nothing particularly special about you. Your plywood walls were far too thin, you radiator always rattled and never worked quite right, and you were always at an uncomfortable temperature whenever the weather hit above 68 degrees. You’re just the same as the room to the left of you, and the room above that one, and the room to the right of it, so why is it that when it was time to leave I was met with tears? Why is it that when I closed the door to a room that wasn’t even mine, I felt like I was leaving a part of myself in there too?
I think of you in three parts. The first being summertime. I wasn’t too familiar with you at first, I kept to myself and made sure I never overstayed my welcome. Always sitting neatly on the bed that looked freshly made next to the window. Never making a point to make myself too comfortable because I didn’t ever expect to stay long. Those days were filled with my frigidness, my stiffness, with my inability to relax because you were new. Along with everything else. Yet despite my discomfort, I found that there was something with you that I could not find anywhere else. Not even in my own room could I find this thing, this feeling. I couldn’t quite put it into words just yet, so I kept that thought at the back of my mind and kept coming back to you.
It must’ve been around October when I realized something had shifted with you and I. I was becoming more familiar with you, I always seemed to find myself waiting outside your door for someone to let me in after I’d finished my classes. I wouldn’t go back to my own room because going back to you felt more fitting. It was in those days where I would begin to laze around the beds and chairs as though they were my own. I stayed over often, sometimes packing my things to spend days on end with you. And even when I didn’t stay over, I always stayed as late as I could, taking the last bus every single night just so that I could be there a little bit longer. I remember those nights vividly and while they were not so long ago, they feel as though they are distant memories that I could never recreate. I recall how many nights were filled with laughter, the loud and obnoxious kind that would have surely been heard from down the hall. It was like a never-ending time of sharing stories and jokes and other small things throughout the day that were memorable enough to spare our words for. I remember how some nights though, were spent much quieter. I like to think of those ones often, I like to think of how I felt safe sharing my story within the comforts of your walls. Because while those walls were thin, they never made me feel exposed. I knew that you could keep my secrets as I would keep yours. And so our days together turned to nights until they eventually all blended together.
I think you saw the most of me during spring. While you literally saw me more, you also saw sides of me that I never thought I would dare to show. I remember the first time I showed you, I was scared because I couldn’t face rejection again, not so soon. But instead of that, I was met with warmth. Your walls kept me from shivering on the spring nights that were a little too cold. I remember how on some nights when I didn’t want to sleep alone in my own room, I would come and stay with you. And I think of how on those nights my worries seemed to melt away as we greeted the night with even more laughter and banter than before. I think of the vulnerability that I came to you with and the acceptance that you showed me in return. I think of it all the time, now more than ever.
I think that while our time together was brief, it was also beautiful. You have seen many versions of me in such a short amount of time, you have watched me change in tandem with the seasons. You understood that the person who I first opened the door as, was not the same one who closed it. So as I speak to you for one last time, I thank you for your walls that held me through it all.

My story began when I was about 25. I was in college just approaching graduation. I was in a singles volunteer group to meet people since I was so shy. I had met this fascinating couple Chris who was quite the charmer and most handsome man I had ever seen. He had a baby face and sparkling blue eyes. He was seeing Amy though and I was quite jealous. Anyway it was at a hospital with plain white walls and the bathroom turned into an elevator to the afterlife or so it seemed. I could see a garden that was lavish and beautiful and then the light green floor I saw a ring of fire. I also saw a dog with whips and chains trying to follow me. To be his prisoner. I was hanging on to dear life when I saw a bright white light. And no face but a hand and at the bottom some sandals. I grabbed the hand. At the moment I forgot my love for Chris and knew I was saved from something greater. I had seen the heaven and hell but I was saved. The reason unbeknownst to me yet but I knew I had been saved by a higher power.

I bet you thought I forgot about you, didn’t you? But no, there’s no way I would forget the metal box I called home for a year of my life. You were safe. You shielded me from the ugliness of war and hatred and destruction. You also saw me getting destroyed. Personal demons that grew inside my mind, a longing to be home, a desire for a war to yield, and a mental struggle that, at the time I had no idea, but would remain with me for the rest of my life.
I remember when we found you, Specialist Herela and me, a 50-foot-long by 16-foot-wide metal container, two blown out windows in the front and an opening where a door must have once belonged. Trashed, littered, you looked like the purpose you served had ended and you were nothing more than a throw away. Yet, we found you. And we wanted you to be our temporary home. You would then be the home of three other soldiers. With some help, we loaded you on a flatbed truck and brought you over to our camp. Forever you are etched into the history books, the memory reels of some insignificant pawns of the American-Iraqi conflict.
We were just boys with barely any life experience. I had the camaraderie of the other soldiers around me, many of which are still some of my closest friends, twenty years later. We somehow managed to get our hands on bootleg liquor to assist at the end of long days full of guard duty, convoys, special details and the heavier stuff like mortar attacks or gunfire. I had a girlfriend back home, unfortunately she’d stop writing, but still. And I knew my mom was waiting every day to hear my voice and a message that I would be coming home. Yet, despite all this, I still felt lonely.
You saw it, you knew. If those four metal walls could talk, I’m sure you would have so much to say. I can talk, yet, I didn’t say enough. I didn’t say thank you for shielding us. For containing all our secrets and our future hopes. For bonding boys from different walks of life to become lifelong friends. We are brothers and I’ve been to every wedding and watched their children grow up, as they have watched mine. Thank you for babysitting me during my therapeutic sessions with alcohol. As I’m writing this letter, I’m not ten years-six months sober. Thank you for enlightening me, that I deserve better than a desertion girlfriend, and I want to tell you that I did do better and she’s raising my beautiful kids. Most importantly, I want to say thank you for choosing me.
You could have waited for a Captain or a Lieutenant to claim you to be their home or workstation, yet you chose me, a lowly Sergeant. You housed the mere foot soldiers, you protected us from sandstorms, locusts, and foreign rodents and pests. We experienced it all and you watched us. Then after every draining day, you welcomed us and let us have a slice of comfort. I know I’ll never see you again. I know I’ll never step on that wooded floor we built in or see the shrapnel holes on the right-side wall we covered up with pieces of duct tape to keep the mosquitos out.
Sometimes in my dreams, I visit Iraq, I visit often, they call it post-traumatic stress. The dreams are filled fear and chaos. Yet somehow, even in a dream I search for the shack, the 50-foot-long by 16-foot-wide metal container that I once called home. Because it was safe, it was refuge. Even in dreams I search for you, longing to say, thank you.