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cleiva submitted a contest entry to If you could send one message you learned about life to every person in the world, what would it be? 1 months, 1 weeks ago
Finding light in the darkness
My message to the world is never let your trauma, injustice, and loss turn your heart cold. I am no stranger to these things, and I’m sure you aren’t either we all have different types of trauma we carry. Though some are more intense than others, we all take damage from these events. I believe the world nowadays lacks compassion, accountability, and inner healing. Once we dig within we understand even the ones who hurt us the most (not excusing the trauma) have deep wounds within they never healed and, therefore bled onto you. We often turn that pain into anger and resentment towards everything in our lives, and carry that hate deep within and untentionally hurting those we love. Imagine a scab you constantly pick at, but never fully let heal and recover. It leaves a nastier scar and insecurity. As much as we want to hide our pain and pretend we are fine, are we? we are easily triggered and defensive because the pain we never healed from just buried and resurfaces at any given time. often leaving us feeling regretful of our actions, because we know how that pain feels. I urge us to heal within ourselves to be an example of light, hope, and joy through darkness. I was a very angry, misunderstood, and lonely child. I grew up in an environment unthinkable to any child, and I can hardly remember those traumatic years. I cried alone in my closet and screamed to be understood, I’d seek attention in many ways and even turned to religion before my mom passed in 2016. I experienced addiction and then my dad’s passing in 2022, which caused me and my family of 3 to relocate and go cold turkey. I understand everything I have experienced has taught me and helped me help those around me. As I heal and learn I carry wisdom and advice to those who later in life suffer the same events. I refuse to hold all this pain and let it make me the mean girl, and I had to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself it’s you vs you, It’s time to heal. Hurting others wasn’t healing my wounds, seeking validation I’d never get was serving me no good, and pointing fingers was serving no purpose to my higher good. Our mental health and overall growth are in our own hands, you choose how you want to carry on in life. I wasn’t going to wallow away in my pain. I was turning it into power and determination to find that peace within I longed for. We must face the shadows most hide from, and learn to live in harmony with our shadow self and light. We can be good people and set boundaries for our highest good, whether that’s family or friends. We can stand up for ourselves and speak our minds using our throat chakra most try to block. We can be love and light while working with our shadows to help us not be walked over in this life. We determine if we let our trauma make us who we are and if we allow it to shape our relationships because we never learned to heal our wounds so we hurt those we love not knowing how to properly love in the first place. You must love yourself first and commit yourself to this healing and I promise you will find over time the spark, confidence, and joy to reenter your life. You are capable of being the light and the person who makes people’s day simply because your energy is so bright and magnetic. I used to be the angry, mean, and sad girl and I decided enough is enough. I held myself accountable for times I hurt people while hurting, I forgave people who never gave me an apology, and I cut family off and friends who no longer served the higher self I was becoming. It was hard and I cried so many nights asking God to make it all stop, but I asked for this journey to self-improvement, and that meant losing everything in my way. I won’t sit here and pretend it’s a cakewalk, I want you to understand this is hard, but so rewarding in the end. There is so much darkness in this world due to people not healing, thus family lines suffering for generations till someone unloads all the trauma. You can be a kind, loving, and able person of light. Some use their past as a crutch, and an excuse to hurt others because they hurt. You can be the example of transmuting all that into love for yourself, and believing you deserve good things your story can be different.
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