I accept you vs I’m compliant towards you. These two words are often confused, confused like me. Acceptance ; when someone agrees with a group and internalizes their beliefs. 
Compliance ; when someone publicly agrees with a group, but doesn’t change their own beliefs.
You date acceptance but are married to compliance. You dip your toes in the ocean but never fully submerge yourself, then go tell stories about how you swam for hours. If you actually swam for hours you’d know what lives in the deep ocean , what pains , what heals , what I actually am. But you just dip your toes. Maybe you’re scared of what you might find in the depths of the ocean. Am I selfish for wanting you to swim or should it be a natural instinct to want to learn ?
I don’t know. You say I make you proud, but are you proud of parts of me or all of me ? Which one is it ? Do you gloat about parts of me or all of me ? Which one is it ? Are you only accepting of the dreams you envisioned for me or all the things that actually happened while awake ? Which one is it ? Is it okay to hold my girlfriend’s hand while you’re around or do I need to hide so no one sees ? Which one is it ? Can I love fully and loudly without you praying for my lost soul or do I need to only love in the confines of what love means to you ? Which one is it ? Do you accept me or are you compliant towards me ? Which. One. Is. It.