Dear Kris,
Today is hard Kris. Learning of your passing was rough today. I had to take a moment to pause what was on my mind when I heard the news. The sounds of the day are just an echo right now. I am so saddened tonight.
I want to take the moment to truly thank you for sharing your story with us here. It was truly an inspiration to me. I […] View
Thank you! It was just 2 degrees when I snapped this photo and I was holding my camera with bare hands. Not to mention this train was traveling approximately 55mph so as it passed I was hit by an extremely cold gust of wind that sent me retreating to the warmth of my car. It was there that I transferred the photo from my camera to my phone with a…read more
Thank you for the kind words Hannah. I’m not sure there was much wisdom there, but that post was a really great anecdote that really stuck with me. 2022 saw me make the biggest leap in my career aspect as I really leapt up to a better paying job that has eased a lot of my financial worry.
In my low moments, I usually hop in the car and drive…read more
It was only the location I was initially uncomfortable with. As usual there was a fair bit of anxiety with meeting someone new. I remember you spoke of having GAD and I to a fair degree have it as well. At the time I met Lauren I had not told her about the story from July yet. I had feared that story might cast a shadow on who I am, I…read more
Of course, no problem! I also get about going to new places and meeting new people. Anxiety has a funny way to make us see the shadow of ourselves instead of the full stage. I understand about defense mechanisms, keeping people at arms length and trying to read this person intentions like a profiler. But I’m glad Lauren made you feel c…read more
Thank you! It was just 2 degrees when I snapped this photo and I was holding my camera with bare hands. Not to mention this train was traveling approximately 55mph so as it passed I was hit by an extremely cold gust of wind that sent me retreating to the warmth of my car. It was there that I transferred the photo from my camera to my phone with a…read more
I didn’t know how powerful a random photo I took on a cold morning would become. It was 2018 and I took a photo of a westbound train in snowy cold Berea, Ohio. That photo would be the very beginning of fates intervention into my life. A single notification of a liked photo became the catalyst to a new, more positive era in my life.…read more
I remember you sharing this in the writing workshop. I’m glad you posted and shared your experience. It’s funny how fate works when we meet people! Over a picture too, which was just wild and so cool. I liked how Lauren pushed you out of your comfort zone, but you didn’t feel uncomfortable and you guys got to meet up. The genuine…read more
It was only the location I was initially uncomfortable with. As usual there was a fair bit of anxiety with meeting someone new. I remember you spoke of having GAD and I to a fair degree have it as well. At the time I met Lauren I had not told her about the story from July yet. I had feared that story might cast a shadow on who I am, I…read more
Of course, no problem! I also get about going to new places and meeting new people. Anxiety has a funny way to make us see the shadow of ourselves instead of the full stage. I understand about defense mechanisms, keeping people at arms length and trying to read this person intentions like a profiler. But I’m glad Lauren made you feel c…read more
Thank you! It was just 2 degrees when I snapped this photo and I was holding my camera with bare hands. Not to mention this train was traveling approximately 55mph so as it passed I was hit by an extremely cold gust of wind that sent me retreating to the warmth of my car. It was there that I transferred the photo from my camera to my phone with a…read more
Reading your letter here made me think of one of my favorite quotes. Henry David Thoreau was quoted saying
“If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.”
I read this and thought how perfectly it fits your…read more
Really, really, thank you for your kind words. This subject is very sensitive to me, so it really makes me smile and it’s a good thing to see so much positivity.
I like the quote, I could relate so much, and I was nodding. I was never the one who liked following a crowd, I loved doing my own thing, and going by my pace has truly…read more
The Equalizer was a good movie. I do feel it was made to cash in on the success of the John Wick movies. Though there’s a lot more character connection with his character than you get with John Wick. I actually ended up watching the sequel first and then the first movie. I’ve heard that he is doing another one sometime. I’ll be definitely watching.
It’s never easy. I was thinking more in depth about this over the weekend. As I was leaving work the night this crime took place, I watched this guy drive by my work. He was likely on his way to the house where he committed these murders. If only I had realized it then and followed him there. Maybe a family wouldn’t be suffering so right now.
Lauren,
Thank you so much for the kind words. It was just such a shock to see that news story breaking and knowing the people that live there. This year hasn’t been the easiest on my emotions. A lot of the hardest things I’ve faced have been the things I avoided dealing with because I either didn’t know how or that they were just too painful. The…read more
This letter is really good. Reading it after hearing you read it during the workshop it really is great. Bernie Mac was one of my favorite comedians. One of my favorite movies of his was Mr. 3000, it’s because of baseball that I really got into that movie. Though lost Amidst the belly aching laughter in that movie is a great story about…read more
Mr. 3000 is a good movie. You’re right about his character going through a journey to become a team player. I love Head Of State! That’s one of my favorite movies! Chris Rock and Bernie Mac were so good together. Bernie killed me throughout the whole movie. Yeah, it’s wild that Barrack Obama became president a few years after that…read more
As the stroke of midnight I wasn’t actively thinking of you. I was jamming to an awesome new track a friend had released a few moments earlier. I supposed after the painful times 2021 had left me with that you would be at least better. There was a lot I meant to accomplish. For the first time in almost a decade I wasn’t out dri…read more
Hi Roger. I loved the part in your letter about the glass being refillable. So many times I forget that. It’s such a unique perspective to have. Going further into 2023 I will try to keep that in mind during both the highs and the lows. Thank you for sharing your hope and wisdom with us. 🙂
Thank you for the kind words Hannah. I’m not sure there was much wisdom there, but that post was a really great anecdote that really stuck with me. 2022 saw me make the biggest leap in my career aspect as I really leapt up to a better paying job that has eased a lot of my financial worry.
In my low moments, I usually hop in the car and drive…read more
Yea well that’s one of my more desirable traits. If it’s mechanical usually can figure it out. When it comes to people and especially love, I’m just as clueless as the next person is lol. I’ve been told I should be a mechanic but a few things prevent me from acting upon that, one of those is my temper. If I were to skin a knuckle I’d be explaining…read more
Well the bus wouldn’t start. The mechanic working for universal studios wasn’t really well versed with busses. They have 2 batteries and one was dead. Knew what battery it was and where to get one. So they were really happy. It’s just part of my crazy ability to react when I see stuff.
That’s a shocker. You would think a mechanic working for universal studios would be a master with fixing a bus. It’s good you were on the scene and knew how to react to the problem.
Yea well that’s one of my more desirable traits. If it’s mechanical usually can figure it out. When it comes to people and especially love, I’m just as clueless as the next person is lol. I’ve been told I should be a mechanic but a few things prevent me from acting upon that, one of those is my temper. If I were to skin a knuckle I’d be explaining…read more
It was filmed mostly in Pittsburgh. The hotel that he stays at was along PA 65 near Sewickley, PA. It’s now additional parking for a fancy Audi dealer. Yea the movie is going to be called Shooting Stars. If my scene makes it, it will be a scene where LeBron gets off a city bus to go to school and you’ll see me in Caroline passing the bus. I ended…read more
Well the bus wouldn’t start. The mechanic working for universal studios wasn’t really well versed with busses. They have 2 batteries and one was dead. Knew what battery it was and where to get one. So they were really happy. It’s just part of my crazy ability to react when I see stuff.
That’s a shocker. You would think a mechanic working for universal studios would be a master with fixing a bus. It’s good you were on the scene and knew how to react to the problem.
Yea well that’s one of my more desirable traits. If it’s mechanical usually can figure it out. When it comes to people and especially love, I’m just as clueless as the next person is lol. I’ve been told I should be a mechanic but a few things prevent me from acting upon that, one of those is my temper. If I were to skin a knuckle I’d be explaining…read more
I love visiting the places where they’ve filmed some of my favorite movies. I used to frequently drive past the Motel from the movie Jack Reacher during filing and then after the tore the motel down after filming was over. There’s a lot of places semi local to me that have been used in movies. Back in April I was actually a background actor in a…read more
Jack Reacher was filmed in Ohio too? Wow. You were a background actor too with Caroline, in a movie about Lebron James? Incredible stuff man. I hope your scene makes the cut too.
It was filmed mostly in Pittsburgh. The hotel that he stays at was along PA 65 near Sewickley, PA. It’s now additional parking for a fancy Audi dealer. Yea the movie is going to be called Shooting Stars. If my scene makes it, it will be a scene where LeBron gets off a city bus to go to school and you’ll see me in Caroline passing the bus. I ended…read more
Well the bus wouldn’t start. The mechanic working for universal studios wasn’t really well versed with busses. They have 2 batteries and one was dead. Knew what battery it was and where to get one. So they were really happy. It’s just part of my crazy ability to react when I see stuff.
That’s a shocker. You would think a mechanic working for universal studios would be a master with fixing a bus. It’s good you were on the scene and knew how to react to the problem.
Yea well that’s one of my more desirable traits. If it’s mechanical usually can figure it out. When it comes to people and especially love, I’m just as clueless as the next person is lol. I’ve been told I should be a mechanic but a few things prevent me from acting upon that, one of those is my temper. If I were to skin a knuckle I’d be explaining…read more
Also the climatic scene in the movie Unstoppable were filmed here in Ohio. That movie was inspired by a real event that happened but considerable creative license was taken. But even in that movie he’s already been told he’s losing his job and still risks his life to save the day. I feel he selects roles based on the kinds of elements the…read more
I love Unstoppable. One of my favs by him. That’s wild that the movie was filmed in Ohio too. A lot of movies have been filmed there it seems. That part where he’s on top of the train running is amazing. He picks his roles very well.
Yea he’s made some incredible movies. One I forgot to mention was Antwone Fisher. That movie was super powerful and not just because part of it was set in Cleveland. I know all of the locations where it was filmed in Cleveland though.
He really has. Antwone Fisher is a powerful movie. I agree. He’s a talented director too. That’s amazing it was filmed in Cleveland. It looked like it was filmed in Detroit too.
I love visiting the places where they’ve filmed some of my favorite movies. I used to frequently drive past the Motel from the movie Jack Reacher during filing and then after the tore the motel down after filming was over. There’s a lot of places semi local to me that have been used in movies. Back in April I was actually a background actor in a…read more
Jack Reacher was filmed in Ohio too? Wow. You were a background actor too with Caroline, in a movie about Lebron James? Incredible stuff man. I hope your scene makes the cut too.
It was filmed mostly in Pittsburgh. The hotel that he stays at was along PA 65 near Sewickley, PA. It’s now additional parking for a fancy Audi dealer. Yea the movie is going to be called Shooting Stars. If my scene makes it, it will be a scene where LeBron gets off a city bus to go to school and you’ll see me in Caroline passing the bus. I ended…read more
Well the bus wouldn’t start. The mechanic working for universal studios wasn’t really well versed with busses. They have 2 batteries and one was dead. Knew what battery it was and where to get one. So they were really happy. It’s just part of my crazy ability to react when I see stuff.
That’s a shocker. You would think a mechanic working for universal studios would be a master with fixing a bus. It’s good you were on the scene and knew how to react to the problem.
Yea well that’s one of my more desirable traits. If it’s mechanical usually can figure it out. When it comes to people and especially love, I’m just as clueless as the next person is lol. I’ve been told I should be a mechanic but a few things prevent me from acting upon that, one of those is my temper. If I were to skin a knuckle I’d be explaining…read more
I need not tell you that what you have went through is wrong. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 20 people per minute experience Domestic violence. 20 people per minute. My own Father experienced it just 8 years ago. Last week it again struck a blow within my circle of…read more
Roger, This is well said. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you are taking your pain and turning it into something powerful and purposeful – a mission to help others and prevent more tragedies. You are such a good soul. And you are honoring your friend’s life in such a meaningful way. Thank you for writing this letter! <3 Lauren
Lauren,
Thank you so much for the kind words. It was just such a shock to see that news story breaking and knowing the people that live there. This year hasn’t been the easiest on my emotions. A lot of the hardest things I’ve faced have been the things I avoided dealing with because I either didn’t know how or that they were just too painful. The…read more
I’m so sorry for your loss Roger. I myself witnessed a domestic violence incident when I heard my neighbor yelling next door and heard a lot of banging around. I went out to see him push her to where she almost flew out the door. I intervened and ended up calling the police on him. It was quite heart breaking and angering to know that there are…read more
It’s never easy. I was thinking more in depth about this over the weekend. As I was leaving work the night this crime took place, I watched this guy drive by my work. He was likely on his way to the house where he committed these murders. If only I had realized it then and followed him there. Maybe a family wouldn’t be suffering so right now.
I was only 5 years old when I saw the movie that won you your first Oscar, Glory. With my paternal background including a Civil War hero it was a welcoming start to the impact you’ve had on my life since.
As I’ve watched your career I’ve always felt connected to the characters you’ve played. The masterful way you’ve…read more
This is a great letter, Roger to a powerful actor and man. I was thinking about doing a letter to Denzel or Sam Jackson the day we did these letters. I’ve been an admirer of Denzel since I saw him in ”Remember The Titans”. The power in his acting blew me away and made me a big fan. Then I saw him in ”Malcolm X”. How he was able to become…read more
Yea he’s made some incredible movies. One I forgot to mention was Antwone Fisher. That movie was super powerful and not just because part of it was set in Cleveland. I know all of the locations where it was filmed in Cleveland though.
He really has. Antwone Fisher is a powerful movie. I agree. He’s a talented director too. That’s amazing it was filmed in Cleveland. It looked like it was filmed in Detroit too.
I love visiting the places where they’ve filmed some of my favorite movies. I used to frequently drive past the Motel from the movie Jack Reacher during filing and then after the tore the motel down after filming was over. There’s a lot of places semi local to me that have been used in movies. Back in April I was actually a background actor in a…read more
Jack Reacher was filmed in Ohio too? Wow. You were a background actor too with Caroline, in a movie about Lebron James? Incredible stuff man. I hope your scene makes the cut too.
It was filmed mostly in Pittsburgh. The hotel that he stays at was along PA 65 near Sewickley, PA. It’s now additional parking for a fancy Audi dealer. Yea the movie is going to be called Shooting Stars. If my scene makes it, it will be a scene where LeBron gets off a city bus to go to school and you’ll see me in Caroline passing the bus. I ended…read more
Well the bus wouldn’t start. The mechanic working for universal studios wasn’t really well versed with busses. They have 2 batteries and one was dead. Knew what battery it was and where to get one. So they were really happy. It’s just part of my crazy ability to react when I see stuff.
That’s a shocker. You would think a mechanic working for universal studios would be a master with fixing a bus. It’s good you were on the scene and knew how to react to the problem.
Yea well that’s one of my more desirable traits. If it’s mechanical usually can figure it out. When it comes to people and especially love, I’m just as clueless as the next person is lol. I’ve been told I should be a mechanic but a few things prevent me from acting upon that, one of those is my temper. If I were to skin a knuckle I’d be explaining…read more
Also the climatic scene in the movie Unstoppable were filmed here in Ohio. That movie was inspired by a real event that happened but considerable creative license was taken. But even in that movie he’s already been told he’s losing his job and still risks his life to save the day. I feel he selects roles based on the kinds of elements the…read more
I love Unstoppable. One of my favs by him. That’s wild that the movie was filmed in Ohio too. A lot of movies have been filmed there it seems. That part where he’s on top of the train running is amazing. He picks his roles very well.
Denzel Washington is such a great actor. He’s in soooo many movies my favorite one that he was in was The Equalizer. He did so many great movies and always delivered his lines amazingly. He’s always in meaningful movies.
The Equalizer was a good movie. I do feel it was made to cash in on the success of the John Wick movies. Though there’s a lot more character connection with his character than you get with John Wick. I actually ended up watching the sequel first and then the first movie. I’ve heard that he is doing another one sometime. I’ll be definitely watching.
So many years have now passed
I lost you so much sooner than I planned
I wanted us to be old and gray
When we finally let go
A lifetime has seemed to pass now
A single word now comes to describe losing you
Lucky
No not what might come to mind I know
I was merely lucky to have known you
To share moments upon this earth
That were graced simply by…read more
Hi roger,
Of course, no problem! I also get about going to new places and meeting new people. Anxiety has a funny way to make us see the shadow of ourselves instead of the full stage. I understand about defense mechanisms, keeping people at arms length and trying to read this person intentions like a profiler. But I’m glad Lauren made you feel c…read more
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Thank you! It was just 2 degrees when I snapped this photo and I was holding my camera with bare hands. Not to mention this train was traveling approximately 55mph so as it passed I was hit by an extremely cold gust of wind that sent me retreating to the warmth of my car. It was there that I transferred the photo from my camera to my phone with a…read more
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