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    To my younger and less wise self

    A letter to younger Jim,

    Ahh yes…writing to myself as a youngster.  So many good times, but yet, the main thing I want to do is grab you and shake you and say “cmon man! get in the game!” lol. More on that in a bit. But moving on. I remember you being pretty shy in your high school days. Not always. But painfully shy in some instances. On the basketball court or on the baseball field, you were as much in your element as you could have been. Outside of that, not so much. You weren’t crazy about getting called in in class, and I wish you didn’t worry so much about giving speeches that you almost made yourself sick thinking about. And if a girl liked you, that was a GOOD thing. Not something to avoid, young Jim. I remember you purposely avoiding girls that liked you in junior high, or even friends of this person. Because you didn’t want to deal with them asking “did you talk to Michelle?”. I remember you hoping that the teacher wouldn’t call on you in some classes. But in others, you were vocal. Why not all the classes young Jim? Well, now young Jim, at my  job, I actively seek to give my opinion on things during meetings. I have the confidence to state my case on things, even to people higher up on the chain than you. And guess what? I’m usually right. And guess what again? YOU probably were right and informed back then, younger Jim.  I often say “if i could relive my high school days knowing then what I know now, it could have been more fun”. Thats true too. Don’t get me wrong- I enjoyed what we did in high school. We had fun. But young Jim, coulda been so much more fun  Not just talking with girls, but classes would have gone better, been more fun.  I guess we just weren’t quite ready to take on the world quite yet back than, huh?

    Things have improved through the years. Your confidence has picked up. You’ve taken a “what the hell” approach to things at times. The unknown has become less of a fear for you. Same w change. You have adapted to change more lately. You’ve tried new things. New experiences. You have come to the belief that you are as good as anyone. That you don’t need to defer to anyone. At times, you are realizing the silliness of being so shy back in the day. But also, because you are so much older and wiser now (wink,wink), you also realize that maybe if you were brimming with confidence, that maybe cautious and unassuming young Jim might have been replaced by cocky and confident Jim..and maybe some bad decisions may have been made, and maybe some trouble would have been gotten into. So all in all, no regrets. No point in wishing away things about days that have already transpired, right? I think we have come a long way and made a lot of improvements. We are still working on that eye contact thing. But hey- step by step right? I promise you young Jim, older Jim is gonna keep growing. We’ve done good

    Jim
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    • Jim, you’ve shared before about coming out of your shell. And I am so glad you did or you probably wouldn’t even be a part of The Unsealed. I am glad your confidence has grown and you’ve become more outgoing. Your a great person and the more people you interact with the better. 🙂 Thank you for sharing ! -Lauren

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    • Amazing story Jim. I know sometimes shyness can be nerve-racking. especially when it comes to sports that you truly like. I’m glad you ended up coming out of your shell a bit more as you grew older. I myself wasn’t really a shy person but I was pretty shy when it came to performing like what if I mess up type stuff. I think it’s a natural thing to have. Your letters are amazing keep up the great work.

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      • Hi Kayjah. Thanks so much for the kind words. Funny thing is, sports was the place I Felt the most comfortable actually. Especially on the baseball field. And it was the unknown that made me uncomfortable. Like people I didn’t know. That’s when I was the most shy. Performing? What kind of performing do you do? Thanks again for the kind words. By the way I sent you a friend request request. I think I did lol if I didn’t send mine to me please?

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    • Jim I was so clumsy in high school (even in basketball). It made me so worried I’d do something embarrassing that I was so serious and didn’t get to have the fun that I wanted. Somewhere along the way, I realized the worst anyone could do was laugh at me so I started finding what I thought embarrassing funny. It helped me relax a lot and realize that everyone is actually in their own little world just like me. I hope that helps you come out of your shell even more!

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      • Hi Jael. Nice to meet you. Thank you for the kind words too. Funny thing is on the basketball court and on the baseball field was where I was the most comfortable. And I wasn’t brutally shy, it was only around situation that I wasn’t familiar with. If I was around people in my comfort zone I wasn’t as shy. The unknown was what got to me. that’s great how you found the embarrassing and took it and made it funny. That’s a really great approach to have. If you can’t laugh at yourself what’s the point right? Lol. Again thank you for the kind words nice to meet you

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